DIAGNOSIS & SPECIALISTS
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It is beneficial to seek a diagnosis for any type of sexual pain, including pain due to penetration problems. Some women may have an underlying physical cause to their vaginismus that needs to be determined so that it too may be treated. Diagnosis can be complex, especially when a medical condition is involved. We recommend choosing a doctor who specializes in women’s health issues like a gynecologist. In an informal poll, on our private forum, about 60% of women who responded indicated they had received a diagnosis of vaginismus from their doctors.
Some women might feel uncomfortable discussing their sexual difficulties with doctors. It’s common to feel embarrassment, shame, or anxiety in such a situation. If that applies to you, try to ease your apprehension as you seek answers. Remind yourself that by sharing these personal details, you are taking care of your health. If you broke your leg today, would you find treatment? We suspect you would. Just because it is not as easy to see your internal anatomy as a broken leg, does not mean it is less important.
Although we have great respect for the multitude of medical professionals involved in women’s health, vaginismus is among the most misdiagnosed and misunderstood of all medical conditions. Not only is the condition poorly understood, frequently misdiagnosed, and confusingly treated, the medical and technical definitions and recommendations are often confusing and contradictory even for physicians.
Uninformed professionals will often alternately wonder:
“Is she biologically unusually small or tight?”
“Does she need a surgical procedure?”
“Does she need physical therapy?”
“Does she need a psychiatrist?”
Regrettably, many women have been directed towards unnecessary surgery or ineffective treatment suggestions by well-intending professionals. Physical abnormalities capable of preventing intercourse are extremely rare. In almost all cases, the genital area is completely physically normal and rather it is the limbic system overreaction causing the observation and experience of penetration tightness.
While it is always recommended to obtain a medical diagnosis, vaginismus is indicated in the vast majority of cases where female penetration is impossible or uncomfortable due to tightness.
Our mission at vaginismus.com and Hope and Her is to help as many women as possible with this condition.
Both websites detail important information about vaginismus and we invite all those suspecting a possible diagnosis to read through the various site topic areas.
Today, there are many wonderful resources to help women learn about vaginismus and treatment. The self-help book offered through our Hope&Her store, go into great detail about the symptoms, causes, and training protocols for successful vaginismus help.
Pelvic Exam as Part of Vaginismus Diagnosis
A typical pelvic exam involves two parts: an external review of your genital area, and an internal exam (with a speculum and/or finger). The exam takes place while you are lying on your back on an exam table with your knees spread apart. Your abdomen and thighs are covered with a paper sheet or blanket.
External Exam - The doctor will visually inspect the outer genitalia, which includes the clitoris, vaginal opening, urinary outlet, and the labia. Any signs of unusual redness, discharge, irritations, or growths are recorded. She may then take a cotton swab and touch it to several spots around the vaginal area to check to see if there are any sensitive spots of pain.
Internal Exam - When vaginismus is suspected, doctors will often begin the internal exam by inserting one or two lubricated fingers into the vaginal opening to see if there is any resistance and to check for any tenderness or abnormalities along the vaginal walls.
Depending on how that goes, she may then move on to inserting a speculum. This tool is used to separate the walls of the vagina so that the vagina and cervix can be visualized and examined. To increase comfort, most doctors lubricate and warm the speculum to body temperature before its inserted. You may feel a slight pressure as it is opened. A small spatula or tiny brush may then be used to collect cells from the cervix for a Pap test. This test screens for any abnormal cervical cells. You may feel a cramping sensation at this point. The collected sample is then sent to a laboratory. Cultures of cervical discharge may also be taken using a swab. The speculum is then removed.
Depending on how extensive the pelvic exam is, some doctors may then place two fingers into the vagina while pressing down on the uterus. This assesses the shape and or size of the uterus, checking for any fibroid growths or cysts and/or signs of infection.
If you are unable to complete the internal exam, the doctor will consider this reality in forming the diagnosis. The results from your pelvic exam and your description of the pain and/or difficulties with penetration will help to eliminate other conditions that could possibly be causing the pain. It is important to note that just because you may be able to complete a pelvic exam successfully does not mean that vaginismus should be ruled out. For some women with vaginismus, penetration only becomes painful or impossible during attempted penis entry.
To assist women in obtaining a reliable diagnosis for their sexual pain, our modifiable script includes helpful tips to
prepare for a physician visit.
Tips to Ease the Situation
For many women who experience vaginal tightness, gynecological exams can be quite frustrating or difficult. The mere approach of the doctor’s hand or speculum can cause the vaginal muscles to tighten. Here are some tips:
Bring a friend or partner for support.
Request the smallest size of speculum.
Relaxing is key to reducing the level of discomfort. As much as possible relax your stomach, thigh, and bum muscles. As the exam begins, breathe slowly and deeply.
Distract yourself by focusing on a picture on the wall, on your plans for that evening, or by talking to your support person.
Ask your doctor to describe what is being done as it is happening.
Communicate any discomfort you may feel as the exam is taking place.
Be Bold- Advocate for Yourself
Obtaining an accurate diagnosis can be challenging. Some women have been misdiagnosed, resulting in unnecessary, invasive, and potentially harmful surgeries and medications. Often, women have been ignored and left undiagnosed. In some cases, doctors who see nothing physically wrong and have not received training in diagnosing vaginismus, fail to give due attention to the woman’s concerns and do not consider researching a proper diagnosis. Seek a second opinion if you are not satisfied with the results of your examination. Vaginismus symptoms generally do not resolve on their own. We encourage you to be bold and advocate for your health to receive diagnosis and treatment care.
“Seek a second opinion if you are not satisfied with the results of your examination”
Is My Hymen the Problem?
It is not uncommon for a woman who has never had pain-free penetration to wonder if her hymen is the cause of her problem. This is almost never true. IN NEARLY ALL CASES OF DIFFICULT FEMALE PENETRATION IT IS DUE TO INVOLUNTARY VAGINAL MUSCLE TIGHTENING, not hymen problems. Unfortunately, there have been cases where doctors have mistakenly recommended surgery for removing the hymen when they are unable to penetrate the vaginal opening with a speculum during an exam. Again, the speculum insertion difficulties are nearly always due to the tight constriction of the vaginal muscles—not due to a rigid or thick hymen. Regrettably, some women are unintentionally led by well-meaning but uninformed medical professionals to believe that surgery will cure what is in fact actually vaginismus. Instead, surgery may lead to additional pain, scar tissue, and no resolution of the problem.
In VERY RARE situations, surgery for an overly thick or rigid hymen may be warranted. However, it is critical to get a second opinion whenever surgery is recommended, to help prevent acting on misdiagnosis, and to ensure a full review of other options for less invasive alternatives. While surgery may resolve a hymen issue (if there truly was one), misdiagnosis is unfortunately only too common.