When Penetration is Difficult or Impossible

Primary Vaginismus Symptoms

  • Full sexual penetration seems physically impossible despite repeated attempts — almost as though there is no opening where the vaginal opening is supposed to be.


  • Women often mistakenly wonder if they are  physically abnormal in some way; whether their vagina is too small, their hymen is blocking the opening or they have no vaginal hole at all. Yet, Vaginismus is indicated in over 99% of cases.


  • Unconsummated marriages


  • Pain and tightness blocking attempts at insertion


Early Symptoms:

(not always present)​

  • Difficulty inserting tampons even after repeated attempts

  • Difficulty undergoing pelvic/gynecological exam with speculum/finger

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Secondary Vaginismus Symptoms


  • Unexplained, ongoing sexual tightness and discomfort even though there is a previous history of normal intercourse.


  • Typically this type of vaginismus is triggered by a temporary physical pelvic medical condition, trauma, or pelvic-pain issue. Examples could include a urinary tract or other pelvic infection; a difficult delivery with stitches required; age-related changes like a hormonal/lubrication reduction after menopause; rape or assault; a pause of many years between spouses; or another similar occurrence.


  • The ongoing tightness is perplexing. Women wonder why they continue to experience burning, stinging, and tightness during sex, even though the initial problem had healed, resolved, or was fully treated.


  • Typically, the ongoing burning, tightness, pain and cause a couple to eventually discontinue sex.

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What is Vaginismus?

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles surrounding the entrance to the vagina involuntarily tighten, making penetration impossible or painfully uncomfortable. Most women are unaware that their muscles tighten in this way during attempted penetration.

Some clinicians use the medical term Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorder (GPPPD) in place of Vaginismus.


Get the Sex Life You Want 

Couples often describe the presence of a “wall” where the vaginal opening should be. Many women feel confused as to how this condition originated in them when they had no prior sexual contact or pelvic problems. 

When intercourse is impossible or painful, additional sexual attempts reinforce the response, further ingraining the negative mind and body reaction. This response is a limbic system reaction--an associative response signaling the body to brace and protect itself. 

Fortunately, women can learn how to train their bodies to relax the overresponsive muscle reaction. Once training is complete, couples can consummate and enjoy healthy, penetrative sex.

Correcting vaginismus is possible, to learn how to correct the response, visit Hope and Her.

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Despite the fact that vaginismus is involuntary and can strike any woman, many women feel intense shame from being unable to have intercourse and keep their pain private.


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