I just wanted to let you know that I have finally overcome vaginismus after 16 years of struggling with this condition.
Although my husband and I enjoyed a sexual relationship (outercourse as you refer to it), we were never able to achieve full penetration due to my muscle spasms. My husband could insert about 1/3 of his penis but then he hit “the wall”. I have always used tampons and have had internal medical examinations so I knew there was nothing physically wrong with me.
Feeling frustrated on and off for years, I discovered your website and ordered your self-help kit. It was the best thing I could have done. I started straight in with the Kegels at 300 per day as I am a fit and healthy 37 year old. I then proceeded quickly through the 1st dilator and onto the 2nd. I did my Kegels around the 2nd dilator to get used to it and that worked really well for me. However, I reached a plateau with the No.3 dilator and could only get that 1/2 way in.
I then decided to adapt the programme to suit me more and tried inserting my husband’s penis which I found less threatening somehow than the trainers. Unbelievably, after only 9 days into the programme and on my first attempt I was able to fully insert his penis and have been doing so for the past 4 nights with greater and greater ease and comfort. I have not experienced any muscle spasms and last night I was able to let my husband take control over penetration. I am able to move slowly around him using the Kegel exercises and we now just have to discover how to enjoy full intercourse more.
I cannot begin to tell you what a difference your programme has made to my life. My husband has been so understanding and patient over the years but I felt so frustrated and unwomanly! I felt abnormal and used to look at other women and wonder why I couldn’t be the same as them.
To all vaginismus sufferers out there, try this programme and stick to it however hard you find it and whatever obstacles you may come up against. Don’t give up because I never believed in a million years that I would achieve pain free sex in such a short space of time after all these years.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!