Thank you for your reply which has helped a lot. I also phoned one of the therapists who gave you feedback on the website who has confirmed what you have said. We have been told in the past by a relationship counsellor that they had never heard of this issue before (this was before we knew of the word ‘vaginismus’) and I’m sure you can imagine the relief many years later when we stumbled a few weeks ago onto your website. Having this situation normalised is already starting to reduce the fear of it not ever getting better.