http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:32:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-4177 Vantij Wed, 14 Dec 2011 23:37:29 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-4177 Hi I'm 28 years old. Been married 2 And a half years I'm still a virgin. We've tried to have sex but I'm just too scared to let him enter even when I've tried I tighten up and panic I don't enjoy when he tries and. Now avoid it. Iv never tried to put a tampon in as I'm too scared to fear it will be painful ive read your website and can relate to the symptoms Im going to order the kit and hope it helps me. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-4111 Emily Tue, 29 Nov 2011 18:12:30 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-4111 I have been married for 6 years now and believe it or not i havent been able to have sex with my husband, i feel like he might be cheating on me because i know me giving him oral couldnt have possibly satisfied him for 6 years. We're hoping to adopt but i cant even trust he'll stay with me because we cant have sex. Its very stressful and i get very depressed as well at times because of the way other people are talking about sex makes me want to do it, but i just cant. Im SO thankful for this site and i really hope it makes a difference! Thank you! http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-4066 always in pain Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:04:38 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-4066 I just got engaged to a wounderful man who loves me to death. I have had this condition and Interstitial Cystitis, which always mean that im always in pain, I am only 20 and have never had sex, we been together for two and half of years; I think i got depression now because of this conidition. I have been in more hospitals than a normal girl of my age should do, one doctor said "it all in your mind" which is crap because the pain was real. I just bought a treatment kit which I hope will help me. I want get married and be able to have sex after i finish my law degree. I wish I would get better but im begining to doubt I will, after the amounts of appointments I have been through and the number of doctors, nurses who said they can't help me. if anyone got any advice about the treatment kit it would be so useful. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-4036 notsosmiley14 Mon, 14 Nov 2011 17:30:43 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-4036 I am 21 years old, married to my husband for 2 1/2 years, together for almost 5 yrs. We have two little boys, one who will be 3 yrs old soon and one who is now 17 months. We use to have phenomonal sex. The pain started to come around the ending trimester of our first child. When we were trying to conceive our second child, it hurt a little but I just shrugged it off. Sex got way better during my second pregnancy but by my last trimester, it got worst. I didn't take exams very well either, luckily I had both c sections, so I didn't have to put up with very many exams. After I gave birth to my second baby, a day before I got Mirena an IUD birth control put in (Aug 2010), my husband and I had successful sex. Might I add, my gyn put my on percacet to be able to put the IUD inside of me. After that sex was horrible. We continued to try after my gyn insisted that it was "all in my head, I needed to relax and that my kids were too much on my mind." Feeling like it was all my fault, I continued to try so called relaxing. What is most confusing is that in March of 2011 we finally had one day of success and that was the last time. We started researching and asked the dr about "vaginismus" thats when he said yes you have it, go buy some sex toys and thats all I can do for you. I got a referral for another dr that was suppose to be more informative on vaginal problems, he started me on muscle relaxers. It didnt feel muc of a difference and I was tired of being 21 yrs old and on so many medications. Since then I have had my mirena removed (which might I add hurt so bad!, to try to start from scratch. I have been trying "exercises" with what I have. Unfortunately, sometimes I get depressed and feel like I dont even want to try, like its useless. It still burns as I try to do my exercises. I want to say "the heck with the doctors and medication" and buy this kit, but I'm such a tight-wad with money that I'm not sure if I want to spend so much money for it. I'm sure I eventually will, I will just have to talk myself into it. I really hope I can fix all this. My husband is very patient but I know sometimes, he just wishes it would go away just as much as I do. He works with a bunch of women that flirt with him and I know he's very faithful and loves me to death, I just really don't want to lose him! I'm tired of thinking about it and being depressed about it, just want it to go away! http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3971 Salam412 Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:55:02 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3971 I am 27 years of age and recently got married. I am a virgin.I am terrified of 'anything' going inside me. My husband has been patient but have noticed him making odd negative comments 'like all women' are having sex with their husbands except mine, all my friends wives are 'normal'.. I fancy him like mad, think he is lovely too , he is taking me to the states soon. (I think that he thinks it may happen there). My mum asked me did everything go well ?? On wedding night, I lied and said yeah all OK. I have never tried 'it' but think it will be painful and horrible. I love all of the foreplay and messing around and flirting but when it comes to him trying, I scream and then it kills the mood we roll over and say goodnight ............... I have no idea why the idea of sez is great, but doing it is disgusting .... http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3945 Ally Wed, 19 Oct 2011 03:17:58 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3945 Hello. I don't really know how to put this, but I've suffered from vaginismus for 5 years now and my four-year marriage ended last year, because of this condition. Unfortunately my ex-husband wasn't very supportive in this and wanted me to solve this on my own beacuse he didn't feel that it was his responsivebility to deal with. God knows how many tears I've cried for that. I feel very unnormal and helpless. As much as I get happy for you guys that are lucky enough to have amazing and supportive husbands, I can't help but wondering: how am I supposed to overcome this without a partners help? Is it possible to do it by yourself? It says somewhere on this website that it is, but how am I supposed to do that when I can't even put a finger there? It's very embarrassing and I don't really know where to start and nobody in my family understands what I'm going trough, It really is a living nightmare!!! The thought of the future scares me and I don't know if I'm ever gonna meet a man that can understand what I'm going through and help me overcome this. I really do want to have children one day and vaginismus is tearing me apart. I really need your help and feedback, please help me... http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3939 Sammiegirl Sun, 16 Oct 2011 02:55:41 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3939 Hi. I am 21 years old. I have recently found out that I have vaginisums. Im scared and it hurts me to know that I can't have sex with my boyfriend. I feel upset or angry all the time. It's like I can't control my emotions. I sometimes feel like this pulling us apart. I don't know what to do anymore. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3870 littlemermaid Sun, 18 Sep 2011 00:38:22 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3870 i've been married for about three months now. my husband and i are both virgins. i'm so scared of having sex. i'm scared of the pain...every time we've tried i've been too scared to go all the way :( i need help. i don't know what to do. how long will this go on???????!!!!!! i need help. i don't know what to do. how long will this go on???????!!!!!!]]> http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3805 mosaic Wed, 24 Aug 2011 18:29:02 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3805 I have been surfing the net to try finding anyone else who suffers the same way I do and has overcome it. I am 22 and have been married for a month. I had told my husband, before our wedding, about my fear of intercourse, and he was, and is, very patient and understanding, and even when we "fail" in my eyes, he assures me that he is very happy with me and that sex isn't the measure of our love. We both thought it had to do with me not knowing about anything concerning sex until I had to research it on my own in our engagement months, which was shocking and new, and scared me. On our honeymoon, though, which we both approached as virgins, I freaked out a few times...dissolved in tears and frankly that's all I can remember happening, I just kept rambling on terrified. For the first few nights of our honeymoon, I couldn't even take any of my clothes off. The first night we were back home, I'd reached the point of being naked as long as he couldn't see me under the covers...but then he got his clothes off and I freaked out all over again. A few nights later I was ok with it, and we tried, but the minute I felt him near the opening, the 30 minutes of foreplay arousal disappeared, I was completely tensed up, and it took all my courage not to lose my mind again. We haven't tried as hard since then, and I have no desire to. I want to get over it because I know it's right, and I know he really wants this, and I want children one day, but everything about inserting anything inside me freaks and grosses me out, and even touching him there with my hand grosses me out...I've reached the point of indifference about touching him with my hand, but I feel like it's my brain shutting out something shocking so I don't fall apart. And I can only touch him while he's wearing shorts. I thought I was by myself in how I think, but it turns out I'm not, and though I'm sorry others are going through this, I'm grateful to find out I'm not alone. Although, I am scared to see how long it's lasted for so many of you. I'm too ashamed to talk to anyone about it, at least that I know. Everyone in my community knows me because of my job and my politically active family. I talked to another woman from my other in law's church who was a marriage counselor, before I was married, and she just said I needed to get over my fear or else he'll want to leave me...it's caused nightmares on the honeymoon of him leaving me, and he had to wake me up in the night from them. I hate seeing him have to go through this, and I hate feeling so low about myself and my ability to serve my husband the way I was designed. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition/comment-page-2#comment-3728 IMB Fri, 29 Jul 2011 00:41:50 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/vaginismus-a-lonely-condition#comment-3728 Hi, I am 18 years old. I know I may seem kind of young, but im about 99.9% sure that I have vaginismus. It's very frustrating and I cry all the time because I dont know where to start. I feel lost and left out and I just need help. It's not only my sex life that is being affected but I cant even get a pap done properly because its so painful and I just cant go through with it. I also can't use tampons. Someone please help me!