http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:32:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-4152 Caitlin Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:25:05 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-4152 I'm 19 and cannot have sex with my boyfriend of 2 and a half years. I've been diagnosed with vaginismus/vulvodynia. I have been going to physical therapy and it has helped a lot, but still not enough to have sex. I'm hoping it will with time though, especially the dilators. My boyfriend has been so so supportive and we have gone 2 years through this together. We do not have sex and it's really nice that he doesn't ever pressure me. I feel sorry for the people who feel like they need to have sex because of their partner. I do sometimes feel bad, but my boyfriend knows the pain it causes me and does not even ask. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-4086 rani Thu, 24 Nov 2011 08:19:48 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-4086 Me and my husband are married for the past 11 months(having sex for the past 11 months only after wedding)..but still the intercourse is painful esp to me and pelvic was not penitrated still now.now we have lost interest in it. .so getting pregnant is just a dream. i am quite afraid if we have any severe medical condition.I am quite interested and he too and we get into mood but when it comes to intercourse i just lie down without life when he is doing it. i know it hurts him so much but its too painful i m trying to tolerate it but i think i m tightening the muscle which is painful for him http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3811 Jerusha Thu, 25 Aug 2011 21:06:12 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3811 Me and my husband are married for the past 6 months(having sex for the past 6 months only after wedding)..but still the intercourse is painful esp to me..now we have lost interest in it. the freq of having sex is just once in a month.so getting pregnant is just a dream. i am quite afraid if we have any severe medical condition.I am quite interested and he too and we get into mood but when it comes to intercourse i just lie down without life when he is doing it. i know it hurts him so much but its too painful i m trying to tolerate it but i think i m tightening the muscle which is painful for him http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3733 Olivia Mon, 01 Aug 2011 05:48:03 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3733 WOW.thought i was the only one with this type of pain. it started about 5 months ago. sex is almost unbearable i close my eyes and grip something.it freaks my husband out.he doesnt knw wat to do.im so lost right now i just want to give up on sex.im 22 this isnt suppose to happen. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3611 NSU Mon, 23 May 2011 00:07:44 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3611 I am a 34 year old virgin. I got married 3 months ago and discovered on our honeymoon that I have vaginismus. My husband spent some time one of those nights, while I was sleeping, searching the internet to figure out why we could not have intercourse, and he told me in the morning when I woke up that I have vaginismus. I saw a gynecologist as soon as we arrived back from the honeymoon, and he agreed with the diagnosis. I have been working with the vaginismus kit for 2 months now, with some progress. However, lately I feel like progress is no longer happening. I am able to use a tampon now, but it is still painful. I have not been able to move up in the size of the dilators for the past 4 weeks. I am starting to get discouraged... http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3552 Tiff Fri, 22 Apr 2011 20:18:19 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3552 I'm only 20 but I've known I've had this condition since I was about 15. Truth be told back then it didn't bother me because I felt like I was too young to even be concerned about about having sex. Now that I'm older and in college I feel so isolated. I find myself jealous of my friends and their sex lives. I've had the kit for almost three years now and have finally decided its time to overcome this. I've set up an appointment with my gynecologist because I also have vulvodynia. Hopefully I can overcome both of these conditions. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3287 Jackie Sat, 11 Dec 2010 15:38:08 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3287 Hi my name is Jackie and I'm 54 years old. I am a younger looking woman who was feeling old for the past 4 years, besides the female "sex problems" I was enduring, I am also contemplating total knee surgery (both knees)so a lot on my plate. I was thinking that my sexual pain was from my surgery in 1992, I had a fybroid tumour the size of a football removed off my womb. I did not have a hysterectomy - my ovaries are in tack. (The tumor was shrunk with a product injected into my hip each month, for 11 months called "Lupron"), the doctors wanted me to go further, but the medication was bouncing me off the walls. The tumor was now the size of a baseball at the time of my surgery and I wanted it OUT! .. My husband of 17years and I were having trouble with sex for a long time and after the surgery it didn't feel that much diffent.. He left me in 1997 -for the biggest reason I wasn't giving him a child. (something I can't fight). I met another man in 2002 and for a while it was really good, but then it started again, this time it was like there was something blocking and it hurt as he would push through and when he pulled out i was left with a burn. This started me to not want sex and I would find many excuses to pleasure him in different ways to avoid it, problem now was the intimacy was gone, which has put a huge strain on our relationship and my needs were not met. (My fault I thought. Yesterday I went to a Gynacologist and today I feel like a different woman. I started last night with a creme-insert. "Premarin Vag...conjugated estrogens". OMG this morning I feel NORMAL AND PRETTY again for the first time in a very long time. I know there is more I need to do - but Ladie's you are not alone and neither am I! GO to a doctor and get an appointment with the right doctor and look into it and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! We need to believe in our selves and take the steps necessary to feel good again! I pushed this off for WAY to many years! Have you as well? Where there is a WILL there is a WAY! I may or may not stay with my current lover - but at least I feel like a woman with a life again! Now anything is possible. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-3139 Rachel Mon, 18 Oct 2010 10:29:13 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-3139 Hi My name is Rachel and I'm 24. Looking at everyones testimonials is a little encouraging as it helps me to know i'm not alone. The whole Vaginismus issues was completely alien to me until I got back with my ex boyfriend after not having sex for a year due to religious reasons. I had previously been able to successfully have sex and enjoy it so you can imagine how shocked and confused I was when our attempts to have intercourse failed miserably due to what I know understand to be vaginismus. Before i had made a decision to wait till marriage to have sex, I went to the doctors to have a general check up and found that i had a polyp which they told me would have to be removed, however when I wen to the hospital to get it removed they told me that there was nothing there. Although I was relieved that I would no longer have to go through any removal surgery it still made me feel a little anxious. My ex was in fact the last person i had slept with before i made my decision and it was after our last encounter that that decision had been made. I thought maybe i needed more lubrication or maybe I was just tired and had lost my sex drive. I had gone back on the pill also and thought maybe that had played a part also. My estrogen levels were completely down if not non existent. I could hardly get wet and when I did it would happen at the wrong time. My boyfriend become impatient and we argued as he claimed it was all in my head. I was so confused and frustrated I couldn't understand what was happening, was God punishing me because I was having sexual relations before marriage. As a result sex become something i dreaded. I absolutely loved my boyfriend and I was very much sexual attracted to him it just was always almost a chore to have sex. Never romantic also having to coach each other through the beginning stage to enter and once he had entered it was only a matter of time before the painful burning would occur. It really did ruin our relationship we argued even more then usual and I felt so alone. When he finally left I lost every bit of confidence in me I thought i'd never be able to find someone else, that sex was now on going to be a curse. Eve now when i've tried to talk about it with close family members they look at me as though I'm making it up. I really am hopeful about the future and I'm thankful for this site. Hopefully i'll have enough money to buy the kit as I really don't want this to ruin the rest of my life or future relationships. Maybe it was just my vagina warning me that this person was just not the right person for me all I know is that things can only get better now. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-2938 rose86 Wed, 09 Jun 2010 08:30:39 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-2938 Hi my name is Cayley and I'm 24. At 18 I thought I had met my soul mate, sex was great and I felt so comfortable. 1yr together I fell pregnant, but found out I was ec topic. After this I am unable to have intercourse as it gives me cronic pain. 4yrs and I do not blame him for leaving as it is impossible to have sex anymore. I have been single now for 6months and to afraid to interact with men as I do not no how to go about saying I suffer with pain. I have no sexual drive now. I have had blood tests, laparoscapy, poked here there abd everywhere. Is all to much when I am not getting any answers. I'm scared I am going to be alone for the rest of my life, no children no husband just me. If anyone else has a similar story and answers it would really help. http://www.vaginismus.com/vaginismus-blog/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse/comment-page-1#comment-2864 esther Mon, 10 May 2010 08:05:45 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/blog-personal/are-you-suffering-from-painful-intercourse#comment-2864 Hi,really need some answers,i'm 25 and been with my boyfriend almost 2 years now and never had an affair.nomally we have enjoyable intercourse,however it's become painful during penetration and ther's uncommon dryness and bit of swelling