http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:32:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3885 Nicole Fri, 23 Sep 2011 04:28:49 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3885 I have read the other comments and it's so relieving to know that there are other women that suffers from painful intercourse and I am not alone. Just like misty I too experience pain at the beginning of intercourse and eventually everything feels fine but after me and my husband are done making love I feel really sore. I have expressed this problem to him but of course he doesn't understand. But he is very patient and understanding when it comes to taking it slow when we start! I want to know will this pain happen forever and will I ever get a break from it. I have even tried to have an alcoholic beverage before intercourse to see if that would kind of numb the pain but that doesnt even work. If there is something I could try please help me because I am sick of going through this pain. My husband has a pet name for me that I want to get rid of and that's his little virgin. I want the pain to be over ASAP!!! http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3857 Molly m Wed, 14 Sep 2011 21:40:51 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3857 I'm 18 and I've been with the same man for 2 years now and I can't have sex it hurts too much I've had sex 4 times and I just can't do it I'm so scared and they guy I'm with now I've done it with him once and I've found out I haave herpes but still I can't have sex everyone tells me to go to the doctor but I'm so scared to get a pap smear because it hurts so much I can't even have my boyfriends pinky finger in it my boyfriend is kinda getting mad but he understands and I'm just really hurt because I can't even have sex with my boyfriend the only time I want sex is on my period and I think its just so grosss so idk what to do I'm just so sad and scared. Someone please tell me what to do please u can email me at mmolly684@gmail.com mmolly684@gmail.com]]> http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3835 Kelly Wed, 07 Sep 2011 05:50:38 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3835 I have been married for four years, and sex was great...until I had my first child. She was pulled out with forcups and I tore quite badly requiring many stitches. I was told to wait 6 weeks before having sex. When we next tried, It felt like I was splitting open. We waited another few months and tried again, but again it hurt worse than giving birth. He pushed all the way in and it hurt right up inside (felt like he was bruising my ovaries) as well as around that skin between the vagina and anus (where I had torn). I spoke to a doctor about this, and he told me to get drunk and try (didnt examine even tho I asked). This didnt work. The doctor then put me on anti-anxiety tablets, which also didnt work. I had another baby a year ago and hoped things would go back to normal, but no. Now my husband thinks my cries of pain are pleasure, and we only do it spooning style so I can hide the tears. I will ask the doctor if this could possibly be the problem, but still, I have lost faith in fixing this horrible problem. It even hurts days later on the inside where I cant stand upright. I hide it from the husband still. He will only blame himself. http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3446 Painful painful painful Fri, 04 Mar 2011 11:31:40 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3446 I've been dating this guy for over 4 months now and the sex is starting to hurt soo bad, and it wasn't because I wasn't lubricated enough, or took it too fast, or I wasn't excited enough because I was all three and really wanted him inside of me. But when we tried, it hurt INCREDIBLY bad! I asked him to stick it in a little then wait and try pushing it in a little more and waiting but my body would not let him get any further in than the head. I've also realized that before the pain got so bad, instead of pulling my legs towards my body to make it easier for his to slide in I've actually kept my foot flat on the ground and squeezing my knees together because it hurt and didn't want him going any further. I wish I could go to the doctor or obg/yn and get check out, because there are a couple other things I need checked out too, but I'm 18 and I don't know the name of my doctor, don't know if my parents even have insurance, and I'm way too embarrassed to ask my mom because I can't just ask, she'll want to know why, and I can't tell her my vagina hurts when I try to have sex. And also my boobs have been EXTREMELY sore to the touch. I doubt I'm pregnant tho cuz I think I just got my period, a week early, but me and my boyfriend have been having a lot of unprotected sex lately. But back to the vagina problems, everyday I keep thinking the pain will be gone and we'll be able to have enjoyable sex again but it seems the pain keeps getting worse. I need help! I literally almost cried when it hurt SOOO bad. http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3262 Overcoming It Mon, 06 Dec 2010 13:08:51 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3262 After lots of visits to the doctor I got referrered to a sexual rehabilitation nurse at the gynacology bit of the hospital. We spoke about sex and she gave me a set of 4 dialators to insert myself. It really helped. I imagine big wide open spaces when I use them and make sure they are warm and have lubricated first. I also have a warm shower before to relax me. I have started being able to have sex with my boyfriend of 3 years. Its a bit painful but not unbearable like it was before and as I learn to relax more i'm sure it will be easier. We've so far only managed twice in the past 3 months but thats real progress after 3 years. Go and see a specialist and let them give you some advice and talk to you before you start on the dialators. Good luck! http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-3077 RJ Thu, 02 Sep 2010 08:49:49 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-3077 Doctors thought I had Vaginismus but actually its a different pain to what you are talking about here. No pain on the way in, but I have pain when my partner hits the back wall meaning that he is touching the stump of my uterus following removal of my uterus during my hysterectomy years ago. http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-2965 Chidumebi Thu, 24 Jun 2010 14:35:18 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-2965 I discoverd the tightness of my pelvic muscle last month,please the pain is really too that am afraid to have sex again,my dear please help me http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-2851 Anthony Sat, 01 May 2010 10:04:07 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-2851 My partner complains of pains during sex and after sex, what can we do to previent it? http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-2463 crystal Fri, 10 Jul 2009 19:50:54 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-2463 Hi, I have had pain during and after intercourse for several years. I have seen doctors and they are stumpted. I don't have vaginismus. I'm not tight. It definitely hurts during penetration and afterwards. I wish I had some hope to great sex. http://www.vaginismus.com/news-updates/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell/comment-page-1#comment-2268 jenneggd Thu, 19 Mar 2009 21:38:19 +0000 http://www.vaginismus.com/v2/feedback/book-set-reader-reviews/when-sex-hurts-by-kate-cardwell#comment-2268 Hi everyone! <a href="http://www.slideshare.net/911insidejob/singles-in-my-area-singles-in-my-area-for-free" rel="nofollow">:D</a> I'm new to www.vaginismus.com. Hope I can be a regular here! I'm new to http://www.vaginismus.com. Hope I can be a regular here!]]>