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Constructive Criticism New

I am writing to thank you for your excellent kit and also offer a constructive criticism of the website.

I overcame vaginismus in about 6 weeks using your kit, and am very thankful for this. I also found the forum extremely helpful, and still use it from time to time.

I have recommended your website to my GP and today to a top fertility consultant, who was very interested to hear of it and the success I have had with it.

I knew about your website for a long time before ordering the kit. The reason I didn't order it earlier is that the website gives the impression of a glossy advertising website which is selling something. I assumed that if you are putting that much effort into selling it with all the photos of models then it must be a product that doesn't work.

There is no need for all these pictures of perfect people, as if you are trying to promote a product. You are offering a very effective solution to a problem. No one would buy the kit unless they needed it, but it a shame to put people off buying it because it looks so over-promoted and advertised that it must be a gimmick.

I am British so perhaps the website does not give that impression to Americans, but from reading the forums I know I am not the only one who knew about the website for a long time before ordering from it.

The new testimonies and information on what the treatment involves go a long way towards giving the impression that this is actually a kit for real people with a real problem rather than a gimmick for supermodels, but I still think there is no need for all the glossy photos.

Once I got into the forums and saw that here were real people struggling as I was I had a completely different view of the website than I got from the glossy photos and advertising speak of the main pages.

Thanks again for a very valuable kit. I hope the front pages of the website don't put anyone else off buying it who needs it.

There is so much information available New

Thank you so much for the response. I am feeling much better about the situation. I was starting to think something was wrong with me because I have a couple of friends that are also virgins and didn't experience the type of pain that I did. I've been looking over the site, and I am relieved to know that there's so much information available. I can't thank you all enough for the work you all do with the site, it means a lot!

Changed my life New

Your website and materials have given me hope and helped me change my life. Thank you so much.

Blessing to find

Thank you so much for such a wonderful website. It really was a blessing to find. I am so happy that I am not the only one with this issue.

Most informative

I was referred to this site by pelvic floor physical therapists for some internal vaginal muscle triggers after hysterectomy. I wanted to contact you and tell you that your information on your symptoms and causes tabs is the most informative I've been able to find about the pain cycle.

Much relief

Thank you for your reply which has helped a lot. I also phoned one of the therapists who gave you feedback on the website who has confirmed what you have said. We have been told in the past by a relationship counsellor that they had never heard of this issue before (this was before we knew of the word 'vaginismus') and I'm sure you can imagine the relief many years later when we stumbled a few weeks ago onto your website. Having this situation normalised is already starting to reduce the fear of it not ever getting better.

Thrilled there is hope

I have not yet ordered the kit, but am so excited to do so. After 11 years of a happy but unconsummated marriage, I am thrilled that there is hope. When we were first married, the doctors who examined me had little to no knowledge on vaginismus. I actually had an operation a few months into our marriage that broke the hymen and was supposed to enlarge the area. Yet, still no penetration. I was then told that I was physically perfectly fine and that it was something in my head that I would have to overcome. Looking forward to my husband coming home tonight so we can order this together. Thank you for the site....I am optimistic that you will soon receive a testimonial from me.

Happiest woman alive

I would like to thank you for saving my marriage. Me and my husband have been trying to have sex for years and we would end up more and more frustrated every single time we would try. After a while we got sick of trying and trying because we would get no where!! We ended up to stop trying. We would just avoid that subject because we wouldn't want to go through the disappointment again. I would cry and cry by myself cause I thought there was something wrong with me. I was scared my husband would cheat on me or leave me. I was devastated because he is the love of my life, he is my high school sweetheart. One day my husband comes home with a whole bunch of photo copies of your site on the internet. I started reading about vaginismus and stories of peoples lives that was my life. I was reading my life over and over again!!! I couldn't stop crying of joy that I wasn't the only one. That there was nothing wrong with me!!! I ordered the kit and I did exactly what it told me to do. 2 months later I was having sex with my husband and we were the happiest couple ever!!!! Thank you so much because right now I am 3 months pregnant with twins and I am the happiest woman alive cause this is what I have been waiting for my whole life, to become a mother. My dream has finally come true and we couldn't do it without the help of the vaginismus site and the vaginismus kit!!!!!!! Thank you again and again!!!!

Wonderful dedicated site

I just wanted to say thank you so much for this website. I struggled with vaginismus for 5 years and due to your spacers I was finally able to overcome. What a wonderful site dedicated to this very real and poorly understood problem! I am so glad I found your site.

Many thanks!

First of all - THANK YOU. I'm gonna order a kit later today, and I've found your entire website so comforting to use - it has just about ALL the information I wanted to know when I realized I had vaginismus. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!

Help and kindness

Oh my goodness, thank you so much. I was just diagnosed with this condition a few days ago, so I am new to the entire aspect. I appreciate all of the support that I have gotten from this website so far, and look forward to being a part of the community. The help and kindness I have gotten from the respondents of my message, and the overall quality of the website has been a great network of support and security. Thank you again.

Thank God for your website

Omg, omg, omg, thank you, thank you, thank you. I am 21 years old and have been married for one year and two months and have never had penetration . . . Neither was i able to use a tampon on anything. Just last week my husband and I were talking about separating because he got fustrated and is in the military and away right now so he is extra fustrated and all and just last night I decided to give researching one last try. I was told I have genophobia (fear of sex), I was told I just need to relax, to give it time, maybe I'm not ready - practically every excuse in the book. Thank God for your website. My husband is due home in 22 days and I am hoping I can give him a surprise and I will be ready. At one point I stopped believing in God because I kept telling myself kids at age 13 and 14 are having sex and they don't even care and I wanna do it - married and extremely in love and unable to do it. I started saying He didn't care and He didn't exist and just last week I said I'm gonna try believing again and start going to church and viola I came across your site. You are a life saver. I had an appointment for tomorrow to see a gyno to get my vagina stretched while I'm asleep and I've learned from reading your site that it won't help because when I'm awake I might still be afraid of penetration even though i was stretched. I also just ordered the complete kit and I will definately keep you posted on what happens and my progress. Thank you guys so much. God bless and hopefully I get my package by Wednesday.

Blessing and love

Very helpful

Your site and mission are very helpful, they truly educate and shed light upon this condition.

Refer patients every week

You have a truly wonderful website and service to which I refer patients every week.

Elizabeth Kemper, MPT, BCIA-PMDB
Sovereign Rehabilitation
Decatur, GA

Info from website was helpful

The most important thing for me is that I got rid of the disease which had been caused rather with stress and fear, and lack of information then with physiology. In this case, the information from the website, the stories of women, and the hope to be cured were the best therapy. I am really thankful also for your time and efforts.

Encouraging

Many thanks for your quick response. I found the piece on the website both encouraging and helpful regarding treatment for vaginismus when you are single. A lot of the fears I have about meeting someone new, are echoed in the text. It is a relief to find that others feel the same way and there is hope, as it can be quite isolating !!

Excited for the life change

Thanks so much for your quick response. What a blessing. I am very excited to begin this journey more whole heartedly!!  I appreciate that you have a website such as this. I'm excited for the life change to come. 

Comprehensive and well designed

Glad to have come across your site - comprehensive and well designed. Thank you for putting it up.

Hope, prayers, and support

Dear Vaginismus.com founders and members, I received my kit today and look forward with hope, prayers and support from this wonderful forum that I will soon overcome vaginismus. Discovering this site, learning about the kit and reading through postings in this forum - has been a Godsend.  I have the most amazing and supportive husband in the world and feel truly blessed. But despite his love and support and patience, I felt very sad and alone with this problem. You can imagine our joy when I discovered there was a name for what I am experiencing, and to find that there are others who are going through the same thing was more comforting than I can ever express...I finally saw hope...I finally felt help could be on its way...and I am not some sort of freak of nature. My prayers are with you all...and THANK YOU...finding this means more to me than I could ever express.

Caring and understanding

Thank you so much. Your quick reply demonstrates what we saw in your organization from the start - caring and understanding about something that few people seem to understand or have an answer for, or any knowledge at all for that matter. We are excited about receiving it because after so many months of frustration and confusion, we found this website which has brought us a lot of hope and encouragement.

Alleviating confusion, pain, and hopelessness

I just wanted to thank you for this website. Just a couple of hours looking at the site has managed to alleviate so much of the confusion, pain and hopelessness that I've felt for a long time about the condition. Thank you!

Good insight

Firstly, I'd like to say that your website is really fantastic. Its given me a good insight into my problem that before would just panic and worry me.

Love, wisdom, and respect

Thank you very much for your encouraging words. All of you are doing a very important work!! Your website is dealing with this important issue with so much love, wisdom and respect, and this is very important. I am not feeling alone any more.

Wonderfully accurate and thorough

As a physical therapist with over ten years of experience in the field of pelvic pain, 15 years of physical therapy experience in all, I have found this site to be wonderfully accurate and thorough. Overcoming vaginismus and chronic pelvic pain conditions can be a daunting task, and having accurate and reliable sources to reference is an invaluable tool. You don't have to live with pain; you can overcome vaginismus. To everyone at Vaginismus.com, thank you for a wonderful website and thank you for your efforts.

Peter A. Philip MS, PT
philipphysicaltherapy.com
New Caanan, CT

I can go to bed tonight with hope

Hi, I just found out today that I have vaginismus and after finding this website I'm starting to feel much better. You're right, no one knows about this and when you hear about it you just feel like you have a stigma...I left my doctor today wondering if I'd ever be comfortable to have a pelvic exam, intercourse, or have children...and after reading the stories and info on this website I feel like I can go to bed tonight with hope that I'll be fine and that I can overcome this...THANK YOU!!!

Prompt and comforting

Thank you so much for your prompt response to my email and for the prompt and comforting phone call. I am actually excited now to try and attempt a new sex life after finishing the program! I am placing my order now…and can't wait to start. Thanks once again for such an awesome website and such care and concern that you take in your approach with those of us who are struggling to feel normal despite the lack of sex in our lives. I am still crying realizing that there IS hope and that I'm not alone.

Wonderful resource

I have been able to log in and use the wonderful resource that I previously couldn't figure out. Thank you so much for your continued help.

Amazing

Your web site is amazing!

Wonderful people

I'm so grateful for finding this website cause I've been dealing with this problem for 5 to 6 years now. I wish I knew about this site sooner. I can't wait to use the kit. Thanks again for wonderful people and a very helpful website.

Help and support

I just wanted to say thank you for your help and support … Before finding your wonderful website I felt lonely and I was thinking that I was the only one with this problem. Now I know that I have someone to speak with. Keep trying to help women with this problem. Thanks again for everything.

So hopeful

Thank you so much. Your site has made me so hopeful.

Doing well with the program

I am doing well with the program … Thank you for your time, and website. It has been wonderful to know that other women are going through this too and that I'm not the only one.

A great resource for my patients

What a great resource for my patients! Your site is terrific and full of great advice and resources for help. I am giving a talk about dyspareunia at the upcoming SUNA meeting and would like to use some information from your site - may I do so with appropriate referencing of the site? Thanks!

Lora Plaskon, MD, MSE
Evergreen/Athena Urology
Kirkland, WA

Website is brilliant

Your website is brilliant and I feel uplifted to know that I am not alone with this problem.

This site has made me feel normal

This site has made me feel like I am normal. For years I have felt like I was the only one with this problem. After reading the stories of others that have vaginismus, I feel like I am normal again. I wish this problem was more well known .... I have been to a doctor and advised her of my problem and she gave me the typical answer..try to relax and maybe light some candles and have some wine...only if it was that easy ... Thank you.

Nothing helped us as much as this website

I cannot begin to describe the change in our life after I came across this website. My husband and i are both indians and were both virgins when we got married. We were unable to consummate our marriage, my husband developed a form of erectile dysfunction due to this. Our problems culminated almost in us divorcing. We finally rallied together and that is when I came across this website. I immediately ordered the dilator set and started working with it. We have been married for 3-1/2 years and seeing a sex therapist for 1-1/2 years during that time.

I am ecstatic to say that within 2 weeks of purchasing the dilator set, recently we were able to have intercourse. Nothing else helped us as much as this website has. Not even the therapist.

Just reading the feedback from all the others and realising that we weren't the only ones suffering made a tremendous change. So if I can convey the same message to yet another person stumbling upon this website, I would be really happy. It is never too late to work on our problems and take control of it. The tools that this website offers make it all the more easy to do so.

You and your website give us the hope that there is the way

Thank you for everything you have done! You are the best. You and your website give us the hope that there is the way. Thank you! The forum is very good idea ... You and all moderators on the forum are very special people. You deserve the happiness! In the world there are only few people who have such big heart and share their stories with others. But, there are some few people (as you, Kate) who really help us who have this problem! Thank you! I think that who seeding goodness will reap happiness. I study medicine and I must admit, that your website have far the most information about vaginismus! Even in medical book is this subject very poorly covered. I ... owe you a great debt of thanks for all!

Heartwarming

Hi Lisa, first of all I just wanted to say thank you so much for your support. If was such a relief for me to find your website and even more really found your message below heart warming... Thank you so much for all your help - I sincerely appreciate it.

Informative and consoling

I am so grateful to find this web site as I never knew what I was going through was actually a condition and I was not abnormal. ... There was a lot of information that I found on your web site that was so informative and consoling for me as I never knew what the real problem was. Thank you.

Website recommended

I frequently recommend your website ... Thank you.

Ginger Cathey, MD
Obstetrical & Gynecological Associates, P.A.
Houston, TX

I cannot tell you how much this means

Thank you so much for your speedy response! ... I cannot tell you how much this means to me and I would also like to thank your website for helping women like me with this problem. I really don't know what I would have done if I didn't find your site. Thank you so much and please keep up the good work!

This website is fantastic

I would just like to say that this web site is fantastic. I am now 25 but when I was 18 with my first sexual partner I suffered terribly. I felt as though someone was putting a knife inside me and would cry every time we tried. I couldn't tell any of my friends cause it was so weird. My mother and partner at the time were fantastic. I visited many docters and had many tests which were horrible experiences for a 18 year old. I was also told things like don't use condoms which terrified me, and try different positions which was extremely embarrasing.

In 2 years I had 3 speres, many internal investigations, a urine test and scan cause they thought my bladder wasn't emptying and many more. At the end of the 2 years I had key hole surgery so they could see if there was any physical problems. They put a camera in my tummy button and a probe in the cut on my pubic hair line. They couldn't find anything wrong and it was very painful. The last thing I was told was I probably was a psychological problem but I was given no help and no support. I was now 20 and had broken up with my first love after 2 years of being prodded and poked with no result…

My friend saw the interview on this morning and said to look at the web site. I can't describe enough how much this has helped me mentally. I didn't know anyone else had suffered and had kept in hidden for so many years like I was a freak or something. Thank you so much...

The interview was on an english tv morning programme. It's called 'This Morning'. The interview was about a girl who had gone through all the symptoms and after 3 years was finally diagnosed. I got your web address through a link on theirs which is www.itv-thismorning.co.uk Thanks once again and thanks for your fast reply.

Informative, easy to read & understand

I am a Clinical Psychologist working with women with Vaginismus here in Sydney, Australia. I was impressed with the presentation of all your products - they all look good and the books and web site are informative and both easy to read, and understand. The patients I see who have received your products have been helped immensely by the prompt service; the web site; the follow up service and now the private forum. This package has helped them to learn and understand about Vaginismus and feel supported in their quest for overcoming this difficult and often misunderstood problem.

Jessica Medd, Clinical Psychologist,
Dept of Urology, Concord Hospital
Concord, N Australia.

Appreciates forum

I wanted to let you know that I have indeed been on the forums already exchanging stories and information with the other women. I truly appreciate having this avenue to talk with other people who have the problem. It is wonderful.

The only comprehensive source of information I’ve ever come across

By way of feedback I can only heap praise on the content … It remains the only comprehensive source of information I've ever come across … was invaluable as the first step in addressing a problem precipitated by trauma some twenty years ago … understanding the condition has been nine tenths of resolving it and, armed with knowledge provided … we have been able to move forward after years of stalemate … My doctors now have your site bookmarked and will recommend it to other patients.

More doctors and physical therapists need to know about you

… very helpful. I wish that more women knew about this and could be informed. More doctors and physical therapists need to know about you. Thank you.

I was very pleased to learn that I was not alone

I was very pleased to learn that I was not alone. I felt as though there was something very abnormal about me, and reading your literature helped me realise that many women suffer from vaginismus. Thanks!

A wonderful website

Thank you for a wonderful website and the knowledge that help is never far away.

When I found your website, I was extremely relieved

Dear vaginismus.com, I was devastated on my wedding night when we couldn't have sex. I thought there was something wrong with my body, or we just weren't doing it right, or something! My doctor gave me a name for my problem - vaginismus. When I found your website, I was extremely relieved to know there were others like me, and that there was hope! I couldn't find many other resources than your website. Thank you SO MUCH for being there when I needed answers!

The website and program have definitely helped

… we have started practicing the real act. It has taken me a long time get started due to lack of time for practice, and my case wasn't that bad to begin with. The program has definitely helped a lot. I wouldn't know how else to deal with this. Thank you for all the efforts you have put in to this in order to cure it. I especially would like to thank you for your website. There are a lot of people out there, who don't know what this is called … Thanks again.

What a well put together site

… We just found your site and what a well put together site it is, it was such a relief to read all that and to be able to understand better what we have been going through. We have been married 13 years and for all that time have never been able to have intercourse. I have only finally just last year been able to insert a tampon and that was an amazing feat. It has been an incredibly hard time as you do feel isolated and even a bit "weird" that you can't do something that seems so natural for many others. For a long time I didn't even know what on earth was wrong with me, and it is a fearful awful time. I am so blessed to have a very faithful, understanding, loving husband who has been with me every step of the way … Thank you for your site as it does show that there are others, who are suffering in this way and it helps you to understand that you are not alone and that it isn't your fault. The guilt that you can suffer from is overwhelming at times and there are times I even have wanted to end it all. Thank goodness I do have a supportive husband and I also thank God that I do have a strong faith in him … Again thank you - your site probably helps so many people feel that they really are not alone. It is an extremely hard thing to talk about and not something you can just share with anyone. For years people have pestered me about why don't we have kids - I am now 33 … It really is like a silent problem. Thanks from NZ

Excellent, very helpful, easy to navigate

I would like to say I think your site is excellent, very helpful and easy to navigate - thanks again.

You handle it very professionally

I purchased your kit recently and thank you … your product and informational booklets have been very helpful and informative. After investigating all the information I could find concerning this matter, I felt that your company had the edge and I decided to try your product. I am very happy that I did. It is a very sensitive subject and I feel that you handle it very professionally. Thank you again

Ever so glad I found your website

… I should say the pack I bought was very helpful and I was ever so glad that I found your website. I never knew that I had vaginismus and even when I got married, my husband could not penetrate me and I felt really upset that on our honeymoon we could not make love, in fact it was not our honeymoon but a holiday. When I came back to England I went to see the doctor and she told me to use lubricating gel and more foreplay, I did also told my doctor when I was at university and she said the same thing. I thought maybe my husband is not pushy enough and if I have a smear test it might help to open the vagina, it was the most agonizing moment in my life, it took 3 times the average time to collect the cells. The nurse did not notice anything and she told me 'wait until you have children you could park a bus there'. I thought that was not funny because I could not even get my finger there.

After 2 years of marriage I thought that I will have to get to the bottom of it, I have knock so many doors with no answers and I have not consummate the wedding, my first point was the doctor again and she told me that there is nothing on the NHS that could help me. I would have to go private and I knew I could not afford it. The next step was research. I spent days on the internet trying to understand my condition and looking a name for it. I started with little words like 'dysfunction' and finally the word came up. I did more research on the treatment and vaginismus.com was the one that was most appropriate and most promising. I also thought the price was reasonable. I also talked to the family planning nurse and she mentioned should would refer me to a psychosexual therapist, I started the treatment together with the kit from vaginismus.com. Whatever the therapist was telling me it is fully detailed in the book and guidance, and the diary keeping was wonderful in this moment of change it is very important that you talk about your feeling, for me having the therapy together with the book from vaginismus.com reduced my treatment period to the minimum, it took me only 5 months to reach the biggest size. I would recommend the product to anybody and I am ever so grateful to vaginismus.com to make me feel like a women and to be able to enjoy sex. My level of depression dropped very low and I enjoy living a little bit more.

However, one advice, it is vital that your partner understand the process you are going through and it will be teamwork. I found the video very educational for him and he completely understood his role in the process. He was patient and did whatever was told from the book and the therapist. He even read the book to understand the condition. Whenever I moved to the next size we have always celebrated it, it was like going through the education system again. Thank you very much vaginismus.com - from another pleased customer.

Your website and products are invaluable resources

I just want to tell how helpful your vaginismus kit (book, workbook, and dilator set) has been in my treatment of this condition. One night, after another failed attempt to have intercourse with my husband, I decided to surf the Internet in search of any information that might shed some light on my "problem." I stumbled upon your website and starting reading the description of vaginismus and women's accounts of dealing with it. It was like reading my own autobiography! I can't explain the joy and relief I felt knowing that what I'm dealing with has a name and thousands of other women like me suffer from it. I ordered the kit that very night and was able to approach my OB/GYN with information that led to a definitive diagnosis of vaginismus. Now that I know what my 'problem' is, I can face it and work on overcoming it. I've read your book cover to cover and am practicing with the dilators. My progress has been slow, but I'm confident with time and determination I'll be able to have a normal, healthy sex life with my husband.

Thank you again. Your website and products are invaluable resources to women like me all over the world. If I had not found your website that night, no doubt I'd still be in the dark about my condition and feeling hopeless about my sexual relationship with my husband. Keep up the great work!

Thanks for your encouragement and dedication

Thank you so much for your prompt reply and input. The material you guys have offered for people is wonderful and I especially am excited about the online forum, which is already proving to be a great support network. Thanks for your encouragement and dedication with helping people overcome vaginismus.

Your website is a fantastic resource!

I can't thank you enough for your wonderful website! I have a couple of patients who simply wouldn't believe me when I was trying to explain this condition; your website is a fantastic resource!

Paul Starr, MD

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