Vaginismus Kit Reviews

Staff are very impressed New

The dilators arrived today, thank you very much. All my staff are very impressed with both the product and the price. I will start recommending them to our patients and in the new year will probably purchase some sets so that we can give them to patients who cannot afford them or who cannot access/use the internet to obtain a set directly from you.

If you don't mind I will also discuss your product with my counterparts at our other main hospitals in Perth - so you never know you might have orders flooding in!

Once again, thanks for the samples and well done on a great product which is well presented.

Gae Lindsay, Nurse Manager
Perth Radiation Oncology, Royal Perth Hospital
Western Australia

Heard wonderful things about you from other therapists New

I'm a Brazilian PHD Pelvic Floor Physical therapist treating pelvic pain, including vaginismus, and have heard wonderful things about you from other therapists in the same field.

First of all I would like to congratulate your website with the complete approach for the treatment. As well I would like to know if is possible for you to mail me some pamphlets or brochures for patient use. I must refer patients to purchase their own treating equipment here in Brazil (such as dilators, workbooks, etc.)

Thank you in my name and in the name of my patients.

Dr. Mirian Kracochansky
www.celulamater.com.br
Brazil

Excellent resource New

I am a medical doctor and specialist in sexual health in Australia. I have recently received a copy of your book and workbook on vaginismus which I found an excellent resource. Apart from my practice I have a family company that provides books and products to the sexual health profession in Australia and New Zealand. Our company is called Intimate Solutions Pty Ltd. Because of the value I found in the two books I would like to offer them to the Australian practitioner and their patients/clients.

Dr Rosie King
Intimate Solutions Pty, Ltd
Australia and New Zealand

Vaginismus kit

I am an AASECT certified sex therapist in Atlanta and frequently see patients with vaginismus. Recently I've been hearing positive things about your vaginismus kit. Is it possible to get a discounted or complementary kit to review and show to patients? I am also an AASECT certified sex educator and teach at Emory University's School of Nursing. I would like to have the kit to show to my graduate nursing students, many of whom are becoming nurse practitioners.

Thanks so much.

Sally Lehr, PhD, APRN, BC, FAACS, CIRT
Atlanta, GA

Heard some great things

I am a Women's Health physical therapist in Shreveport, LA. I have heard some great things about your product, but I would like to receive from information personally from your company. Would you please send me some information, so I can pass it on to my patients? I would immensely appreciate it.

Samantha Thiemann, PT, DPT
Shreveport, LA

Physical Therapist specializing in Women’s Health

I am a Physical Therapist specializing in Women's Health. Over 90% of my practice is pelvic pain, mostly Vaginismus and unconsummated marriages. I was wondering if I could be sent some of your materials as samples to show my patients? That would be so great! I also have a close working relationship with Penner & Associates in Pasadena, CA, who I know recommend vaginismus.com to all their clients.

Heather Jeffcoat, DPT
Sherman Oaks, CA

Highly recommended your products

I am a physical therapist at PT Northwest, LLC, and I recently attended a course through the Herman and Wallace Institute and they highly recommended your products. I have found it very helpful to have the product on hand as a visual aid before suggesting that my patients purchase the product. I appreciate your services and your willingness to help me better serve my patients!

Erin DeVoy, DPT
PT Northwest, LLC
Salem, OR

Resolution in 9 days after 16 years of struggling

I just wanted to let you know that I have finally overcome vaginismus after 16 years of struggling with this condition.

Although my husband and I enjoyed a sexual relationship (outercourse as you refer to it), we were never able to achieve full penetration due to my muscle spasms. My husband could insert about 1/3 of his penis but then he hit "the wall". I have always used tampons and have had internal medical examinations so I knew there was nothing physically wrong with me.

Feeling frustrated on and off for years, I discovered your website and ordered your self-help kit. It was the best thing I could have done. I started straight in with the Kegels at 300 per day as I am a fit and healthy 37 year old. I then proceeded quickly through the 1st dilator and onto the 2nd. I did my Kegels around the 2nd dilator to get used to it and that worked really well for me. However, I reached a plateau with the No.3 dilator and could only get that 1/2 way in.

I then decided to adapt the programme to suit me more and tried inserting my husband's penis which I found less threatening somehow than the trainers. Unbelievably, after only 9 days into the programme and on my first attempt I was able to fully insert his penis and have been doing so for the past 4 nights with greater and greater ease and comfort. I have not experienced any muscle spasms and last night I was able to let my husband take control over penetration. I am able to move slowly around him using the Kegel exercises and we now just have to discover how to enjoy full intercourse more.

I cannot begin to tell you what a diference your programme has made to my life. My husband has been so understanding and patient over the years but I felt so frustrated and unwomanly! I felt abnormal and used to look at other women and wonder why I couldn't be the same as them.

To all vaginismus sufferers out there, try this programme and stick to it however hard you find it and whatever obstacles you may come up against. Don't give up because I never believed in a million years that I would achieve pain free sex in such a short space of time after all these years.

Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Wanted to scream it from the roof tops

In the past I have seen a psychosexual counsellor, and a (very expensive!) top Harley Street (London) sex therapist. Both treatments unsuccessful - that's when I decided to google 'vaginismus' on the internet and stubbled across the website. When the trainers first arrived I felt shocked and upset - and immediately scared about failing. However, what's great about this program is that it let's you work at your own pace - no rushing, no pressure.

At 26 years of age, I managed to have full IC with my fiance and live-in partner of 5 years for the first time. I wanted to scream it from the roof tops, I wanted to cry - I felt such a weight had been lifted. Instead, I chose to smile inwardly as this has always been my (and my partner's) little secret....

I don't want to share my story to gloat - I want to share my story to hopefully inspire those on the program. It's taken me a year. At times I had breaks and gave up, at times I cried and felt like a complete failure, at times I felt stupid, at times I felt helpless and abnormal and that I'd never be able to make love to my husband so 'what was the point'....

I sought comfort by reading other's comments on the forum. But I also picked up valuable tips; practical tips that really helped me to succeed:

1. Warm lubricant and trainer in warm water before staring insertion exercises
2. Persevere persevere persevere
3. When you think you've practiced insertions enough...do it some more (you can never have enough practice controlling your pc muscles)
4. When it comes to inserting a penis for the first time - straddle the penis facing away from your partner
5. lubricate lubricate lubricate (I dread to think how much money I must have spent on lubricant!)
6. Review your declarations, often
7. Love and respect your own body

And a couple of tips from me:

1. Only do this program if you feel truly ready - be prepared to explore your past in order to move forward
2. Read erotic fiction (this helped me to accept IC as a 'healthy' act)

Although I've achived IC now, I feel I've only started on my journey. I'd like to diminish unhealthy messages and emotions towards IC entirely, and I'd like to be able to achieve a pap smear screening.

I have overcome primary vaginismus. I can tell you it has been the hardest, longest personal battle that I've ever had. Now I can thank Mark and Lisa Carter - for they truly are my saviors. I truly believe the vaginismus kit I bought is 'worth it's weight in gold'.

Thank you Mark and Lisa.

352 unconsumated patients with 100% success rate

We use your dilator & materials since 2003 and find them very very beneficial. We are the one of a biggest sexual therapy center in Turkey. Vaginismus and Disparunia are very common problems in our country. It's been about 352 unconsumated patient so far and we had a 100% success rate with your products.

It's also been published by us in the biggest national "Gynecology and Obstetrics Congress" in Turkey (TJOD Congress, May 2008). And also been sited in our web site regarding vaginismus.

You can also publish and declare in your web site this my regards about your product. Kindly, Thanks again

Süleyman Eserdag, MD
Gynecologist & Sexual Therapist
www.jinekolognet.com/vajinismus.asp
Turkey

Words are not enough

I must express my sincere gratitude to you, for this great thing you did for me. I got the kit yesterday - you are so wonderful, words are not enough for me to thank you. I pray that you always get help whenever and wherever you need it. Thank you so much

Refer patients every week

You have a truly wonderful website and service to which I refer patients every week.

Elizabeth Kemper, MPT, BCIA-PMDB
Sovereign Rehabilitation
Decatur, GA

Recommended to patients

I am a women's health physical therapist at Georgetown University Hospital in Washington DC. I would like to recommend your 10 step book series to my patients. Would it be possible to provide me with a complimentary copy of the series for clinical use? Thanks!

Carrie James, DPT, OCS, MTC
Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist
Georgetown University Hospital
Washington, DC

Helping silent sufferers

The book is very insightful and thorough. Well done for having such a professional website and helping silent sufferers all over the world!

For the First Time

"I purchased your kit awhile back and finally started the process. I am done and was excited to be able to try intercourse for the first time in 2 years. Thank you for your help."

Thanks for Having this Website Available

"I purchased the kit with the dilators, book & video & received it in October 2007. I started the same day. I didn't have much trouble with the first two dilators. Today, I was able to insert the largest dilator after inserting the previous size first. I am so happy that my brother, who is an ob/gyn told me about vaginismus. I am almost 35 next month, married for 4 1/2 years & simply want to have intercourse finally & start a family. Thanks for having this website available!"

So Glad

"I can't believe I can actually have intercourse. I'm so glad I can have intercourse now. I would have never thought this could happen."

Easy to Relate to

"I can't tell you enough how helpful your book and tools were and how easily it was to relate to and use them."

Hopeful

"I managed to get the order through and have received the Kit a lot faster than I thought . . . so am hopeful it will help my problem as it seems to have been so helpful for others and is a very informative and practical kit."

Very Happy

"I had the vaginismus problem a year before, and now it has been solved, I express my thanks to you. I am very happy now."

Hope, Prayers, and Support

"Dear Vaginismus.com founders and members, I received my kit today and look forward with hope, prayers and support from this wonderful forum that I will soon overcome vaginismus. Discovering this site, learning about the kit and reading through postings in this forum - has been a Godsend.  I have the most amazing and supportive husband in the world and feel truly blessed. But despite his love and support and patience, I felt very sad and alone with this problem. You can imagine our joy when I discovered there was a name for what I am experiencing,  and to find that there are others who are going through the same thing was more comforting than I can ever express...I finally saw hope...I finally felt help could be on its way...and I am not some sort of freak of nature. My prayers are with you all...and THANK YOU...finding this means more to me than I could ever express."

Enjoying My Life Again

"I just wanted to let you know that I bought Vaginismus Kit a few months ago and I'm now free and enjoying my life again. My husband and I are trying for a baby now, which was something I could only dream about a few months back. I wanted to thank you and if it wasn't for this kit and the book (which is a great help and support) I would still be suffering from vaginismus. Thank you so much. :)"

Remarkably Effective

"I recently purchased the vaginismus kit for myself and found it remarkably effective. Within three weeks I overcame my secondary vaginismus.  I'd suffered with it for two years (post breast cancer, surgery, radiation, chemo, and the discontinuance of HRT)."

Depressing Days are Over

"I want to thank you with all my heart. I received your products, and with concentration on the treatment, I managed to insert my husband's penis. It was the most exciting moment of my life and best of all I didn't even realize when he went in. It is all thanks to you. Those depressing days are over for now."

This is a Great Solution

"I'm so grateful for your advice, it means a lot to me. There are a lot of women who are ashamed to talk about their problem, and this is a great solution for them."

Hope to Women All Around the World

"I've progressed very well from D1-D2 and now busy with D3. (I'm having a little bit of difficulty there but will keep going at it.) I'm writing because I cannot begin to explain how truly grateful I am for your help. I think I would've lost all hope if it weren't for this kit. I did not know how common this problem was and amazed at the extensive research already done in the USA. Thank you so much once again and may you continue to bring hope to women all around the world."

Intercourse Without Fear or Pain

"I am currently 39 years old and recently overcame my lifelong  disorder of vaginismus through the help of the book Completely Overcome Vaginismus by Mark and Lisa Carter. Although I attempted various other methods in the past and failed, this book was  absolutely excellent and allowed me to have intercourse without fear or pain. Again, I highly recommend to any woman who has vaginismus to read Mark and Lisa Carter's book. I only wish I had found it years ago." 

Incredibly Blessed

"We became parents to a beautiful little girl in August. The pregnancy and birth all went really well. The thought of becoming parents seemed impossible to us for a long time. We married in September 2002. We overcame vaginismus in April 2006. Your kit played a crucial role in our success. We feel incredibly blessed. Thank you so much!"

Successful in Conceiving

"We would like to thank you for the great help you have offered us. We purchased your kit and I was successful in conceiving in 6 months time. We have been married for 5 years and have been trying for a baby since then, but it was your kit and His Blessings that did the wonder !! We truly are very glad and thankful to your site."

Complete Confidence

"I cannot tell you the sense of gratitude I (we) have for the materials you and your husband developed.  I'd been using other forms of dilators until your kit arrived and then began all the instructions immediately...  and voila...we're having a completely different experience... we were laughing and singing your praises!  ...not there yet but now we have complete confidence and hope that with continued work and commitment...we're going to get there very soon.  This time last week I was afraid it might never happen."

Tears of Hope

"It worked I'm crying tears of hope as I read others stories. I am so thankful that God put that interim doctor in the right place at the right time and she was able to say exactly what it was, without us having to go through all the painful years of not knowing that some of those on the forum have."

I Have Been Able to Overcome Vaginismus

"I just wanted to thank you and Mark for sharing your stories. Thanks to your helpful kit, I have been able to overcome vaginismus and engage in sex for the first time with my loving and supportive boyfriend. It's such a great feeling because I never thought it would be possible. Friends and family didn't understand what I was going through and I never understood whether or not something was wrong with me. The entire kit was helpful, everything from the video, the workbook, and the dilators. It's also comforting to know that I'm not alone and that so many other women have changed their lives thanks to your products. I'm so glad I found your site. I can't thank you enough!"

Fast Delivery

"Thank you very much for the fast delivery of the package. We are glad about having found such a professional help and someone who understands the problem. The book is great!"

Not Alone

"I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for providing your information and products.  I ordered your book, and found that self-education has been 90% of my problem! My OBGYN basically laughed at me when I told her my symptoms, but your book addressed the problem and shed light on the subject in a kind, calm way. After reading your book I ordered the dilators, and am AMAZED to tell you that I've made incredible progress in just a few months - and to think all I needed was some education and support, and the knowledge that I was NOT alone." 

Suffered for more than 10 years

"My story began when I wanted to be a mother. I suffered with vaginismus for more than 10 years. I thought that with time, patience, and being more relaxed I would solve my problem by myself. It is a problem difficult to share with other people and I felt ashamed, very sad, and alone. I am very happy to say that it's been a month of intercourse with my husband without problem. I could have never imagined so before! I could not end it without thanking the authors and all the people involved in this program for their great job and their huge help. I'm Spanish and I don't have a good english level, but I was able to understand the book and I recognized myself and felt all the feelings the authors mentioned. From another part of the world, I really thank you for saving me and helping me to overcome this difficult chapter of my life."

Changed My Life

"Your book has changed my life completely. I actually found your website by accident and finally found a solution to my problem that I hid from for years."

Very Empowering

"Thank you! Thank you! And Thank You!!! My husband and I were able to consummate our 7 year marriage. We are now able to have pain free intercourse without the help of dilators. I can proudly say that we overcame Vaginismus. The step by step instructions in the book were amazing and the feedback from the forums is very empowering. It is so amazing to know that I was not alone in this world suffering from Vaginismus. I could relate to what other women experience. Thanks again for bringing this amazing product into our lives. We are on our way to a normal sexually active life!"

Botox and Vaginismus

When we use Botox to overcome the vaginal spasm that occurs in vaginismus, our goal is for the woman to be able to have pain free intercourse. There is a high rate of success when Botox is used for vaginismus. Nevertheless this is not the entire answer, in that women who have never had intercourse are not necessarily fulfilled. Women need to understand their own bodies and what turns them on and also what does not. There is a learning process that is needed for both members of the couple.

These concepts are brought to light by the excellent book written by Mark and Lisa Carter entitiled "Completely Overcome Vaginismus". In this book the authors take the patient through the many considerations leading up to possible causes of vaginismus, and a step by step approach to overcome vaginismus using a series of graduated dilators, and the use of dilators prior to intercourse. Additional exercises are discussed to allow the woman to develop a greater awareness of their own sexual desires. For the patient who wants to move more quickly through the process, botox is useful in its ability to block vaginal spasm. When Botox is used in conjunction with the recommendations in this text, patients have one more modality towards the successful outcome that they desire.

This book as well as the dilators can be ordered from www.vaginismus.com. In our own practice this book has become a "must read" and our patients are encouraged to use the dilators after the botox begins to take effect. Generally botox is effective in about 5 to 7 days, but the process to achieve intercourse takes longer, generally about 3 to 4 weeks. We recommend that our patients move slowly through the process. Botox begins to wear off at about 2 1/2 to 4 months, so it is best to complete the process during that time frame. Once pain free intercourse is achieved, the vagina will remain dilated and usually repeat botox is not needed. At times a repeat dose is given if the patient needs a higher dose of Botox or if continued difficulties are encountered.

Peter T. Pacik, MD, FACS
plasticsurgerypa.com
Manchester, NH

14-year battle with vaginismus

After a 14-year battle with vaginismus, I personally overcame this condition using the Completely Overcome Vaginismus program. I am now a Consultative Life Coach for women with vaginismus, coaching them through the emotional, spiritual and physical rough spots of vaginismus treatment via telephone. Obviously, the resources offered through Vaginismus.com have proven invaluable for both me and my clients. Using the information provided through this website, thousands of women are overcoming vaginismus and moving forward with their lives. I, for one, am eternally grateful for this service.

Kathy Cordell, Life Coach
freedomsteps.org
Cheyenne, WY

I did it!

"I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS AND I HAVE BEEN SUFFERING FROM VAG SINCE MY MARRIAGE NIGHT WHICH IS THE FIRST SEX TRIAL FOR ME. I HAVE SEEN 3 THERAPISTS AND GYNECOLOGISTS AND HAD EXTENDED TIME THERAPY BUT I COULDN'T SUCCEED. EVEN I COULDN'T OPEN MY LEGS APART. WITH THIS TREATMENT SET, DILATORS AND THE BOOKS THEY HELPED ME A LOT AND MADE ME OVERCOME VAG. IT IS EXTREMELY UNBELIEVABLE THAT I AM HAVING PLEASANT SEX SINCE LAST WEEK. VAGINAL DILATORS WERE KEY FACTOR FOR ME BECAUSE THEY TAUGHT ME THAT I HAVE AN OPENING AND IT IS POSSIBLE TO INSERT SOMETHING WITHOUT ANY PAIN. THEN I FOLLOWED ALL INSTRUCTIONS IN THE BOOK STEP BY STEP AND FINALLY COULD HAVE FULL INTERCOURSE.

IN MY COUNTRY THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF VAG PATIENTS AND THEY PAY A LOT OF MONEY BUT CAN'T GET AN EXACT SOLUTION. I ALREADY RECOMMENDED THEM TO GET ONLINE AND ORDER TREATMENT KIT. PEOPLE THINK IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO GET IT IF YOU ARE NOT IN USA.

I WOULD LIKE TO THANK YOU A LOT. YOU GAVE MY LIFE AND HAPPY MARRIAGE BACK. NOW WE ARE PLANNING TO HAVE A BABY."

2 weeks pregnant

"I'm happy to inform you that my wife is 2 weeks pregnant. We thank God for this. This must have happened in my wife's first cycle after overcoming Vaginismus. Pls rejoice with us."

I love your product

A patient mentioned your kit to a physiotherapy colleague who mentioned it to me. I love your product. Thank you for having the fortitude to produce it. I will certainly be promoting it in my gynaecology practise and to my OBGYN colleagues.

Dr. Jackie Stacy
Melbourne, Australia

My wife and I were able to have painless intercourse

THANKS A LOT - Hi Lisa, I'm happy to inform you that my wife and I were able to have painless intercourse just about 4 weeks into the programme. We deeply thank God for making you and your partner a blessing unto the world. We also thank you for making yourself available to be used of God. Just yesterday, with my wife on top we were able to make very passionate love. We're still using the woman on top position for now. Once again we thank you for your kindness in sending your products to us in Nigeria. May God bless you real good. May HE bless and enlarge your work. Thanks [names removed] - Nigeria
Praise the Lord! For it is good to sing praises to our God; for it is pleasant, and praise is beautiful. Ps.147:1 When you lift up your hands in praise to God HE will take up your hands and lift you up. Blessed be the Lord for HIS wondrous works in our lives.

It’s a blessing!!!

Thank you for responding and developing the material on Vag. It's a blessing!!! Thanks

5 months pregnant

The treatment worked for me. It is simple to understand and follow the steps. I am free from Vaginismus just using the kit. I am also 5 months pregnant as well. I want others to know that the treatment really works. Thank you So much.

Give hope and courage

I would like to start from the beginning of my vaginismus story. I'm a 27 yrs old woman. I got married on Jan 2007. Sexual intercourse for my husband and me was impossible for us due to the pain. I had taken biology but my practical knowledge about the anatomy was very low and so too was my husband's. We were very stressed and very disapointed with ourselves. My husband and I went to see a VOG and was prescribed a lubricant. It didn't work. Hopelessly, we went again to see the doctor and he suggesed to strech my vaginal opening by a small operation. We agreed and had it done at the end of January. We tried again & again with different postures but the pain remained and the intercourse was still impossible. We stopped to see the doctor & my husband and I decided to go through the internet for a more confortable lubricant and by miracle GOT YOUR WEB SITE! vaginismus.com. We immediately decided to order your complete kit. We got the kit at the end of March. I still can't believe our success! We got immense courage after having watched the CD. I followed every step little by little. Started PC muscle group exercises at the end of March and continued for 2 weeks. I realised great progress in handling my PC muscle group. 3rd week, I was able to insert a Q-tip, then after succeeded to insert the 1st dialator to the 4th dialator!!! It took 3 months to get used to it thanks to God and to you! Today, 17th Jun 2007, my husband and I were able to have our 1st intercourse by a full penis insertion!!! without any pain.... Your guidance and every blessings of others [in the forum] was the secret behind our success! I will definitely tell about this to our doctor and make him aware about vaginismus and give him a copy of your magical journal! It gave life to us and now, we're trying for a baby.... after 6 months of our marriage we were able to acheive the intercourse!(Jan-Jun) THANK YOU!!! Keep going with your magnificant service throughout the world and give hope and courage to every one who suffers from vaginismus! You will receive all our blessings! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR COMPANY!!! from- K.N.S.S

Now we can finally try to have kids

My husband and I have been married for 11 years. We have been trying to have intercourse, year after year. I thought I was a loser, a weakling. I couldn't believe I couldn't handle pain. I always thought "how come everyone can do it but me? What is wrong with me?" I felt I was the only one in this world that had this problem. One day my husband came home and showed me this website he had printed out. It was about vaginismus and pages and pages of women sharing their stories, MY STORIES!!!! I started crying like a little baby. I couldn't believe I wasn't the only one in this world. I was not a wimp, I really had a problem. To make my very long story short, I bought the dilator/book kit. It took me about 2-3 months but I finally did it. I am finally having sex with the man I love most in this world. My husband was the one that found the site, who I will always be thankful to, not for finding it but for believing in me and not leaving me. And thank YOU for saving my marriage. Thank you so much. To all those women out there buy the dilator/book kit and be patient and also believe in yourself. It will happen to you, just like it happened to me. Now we can finally try to have kids, wish us luck!!!!

16 years without intercourse

"I was so pleased to discover your website last summer. My husband and I had been married for over sixteen years but had never been able to have intercourse. Although we have a wonderful, happy marriage, I always felt that there was a part of me that was incomplete as a woman, and that I was in some way abnormal. Doctors have told me over the years that I was not alone in having this problem, but it was only when I read the testimonies on your website that I truly believed that other women really had gone through the same physical and emotional distress as me. I cried so much as I read how vaginismus could be overcome.

One of the most difficult things for me over the years has been not having the chance to have children. When I reached 40 years old time I knew that time was running out, but I had never come across any practical help in tackling my problem until I came across the "Completely Overcome Vaginismus" programme. I thought there was little to lose (apart from a few dollars!) in buying it.

I steadily worked through the programme over a few months, and here we are in the Spring and it has worked!!! Over the past few weeks we have successfully had intercourse a number of times. I never, ever thought it would happen, and it is thanks to you that it has, after nearly 17 years! Sometimes, I still find myself wondering if I have dreamt the whole thing, but no.. it is very real. Thank you so much. I know it wouldn't have happened without your help and words are not enough to express how grateful I am.

I would urge anyone experiencing vaginismus to give this course a try. I really did have a severe problem which I thought would be with me for life. Please don't give in to it because you can overcome."

Only 2 weeks to overcome

"I am cured! I had vaginismus 2 weeks ago. … [the doctor] had said that it would take 2 months but it took me only 2 weeks to overcome it! I am so happy. … It really helps. Good luck everyone."

Appreciate it beyond words

"I had been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we hadn't had sex. I truly though there was something very very wrong with me. I thought I was a freak because there was no way we could have intercourse. I started looking online to see if anyone else had my problem and then I found your website and immediately ordered your kit. I did all the exercises and it was wonderful. I want to thank you so so much for helping me. I appreciate it beyond words could describe. Thank you thank you."

Now you are helping me, too.

"You have helped so many people with this difficult problem and given them hope in their life, and now you are helping me, too. Thank you once again so kindly. I hope to let you know soon that I have succeeded with overcoming this problem. Thank you so much for your support. God bless you."

Results are amazing

"I would like to thank you for all the help and providing such a valuable resource to overcome our problems. The results are amazing and we hope to start our family soon."

Hear it’s a great kit

"Hello. I'm a qualified sex therapist in the UK (member of BASRT and UKCP) and was directed to your site by a colleague. I have many clients who may be interested in your product. I would be grateful for a vaginismus kit so I can recommend it to my clients (I do hear it's a great kit). Thank you." … "It is ok to put out my comments; contact as many women as have issues around this issue. Best wishes"

Janet Sutherland, BASRT, UKCP
Lincolnshire, England

Wonderful information in a sensitive manner

"I am a gyne nurse and have been married for 6 months. I still have not been able to have intercourse with my husband. Sadly, because I am a nurse in that field, I was too embarrassed to tell anyone about my problem except my mom and my ob/gyn. During my annual exam, she had mentioned the word vaginismus, but didn't go into any explanation…I think she assumed I knew what it was and I assumed it was merely a term for painful intercourse. After discovering your website and completing the reading, I realized that vaginismus is what has put me into a state of anxiety and depression for the past few years. (my ob/gyn even placed me on antianxiety medication) I just ordered the kit and, although I'm extremely nervous to insert the dialators, I am confident that this will lead me in the right direction. I basically just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for providing such wonderful information in a sensitive manner. Every night, i feel like we need to try to have intercourse, and every night, it ends in tears and frustration. I hope to make a full recovery soon! I will let you know how it goes. Thank you so much!"

Doing well with the program

"I am doing well with the program … Thank you for your time, and website. It has been wonderful to know that other women are going through this too and that I'm not the only one."

Have now overcome

"Hi, I had Vaginismus since 2002 and have now overcome it. I bought one of your kits a few years back. I would like to chat in the forum but I cannot see how to sign up anywhere. Please let me know if I can because I feel like I might be able to help some people going through the problem. Thanks"

Appreciate your book

"I appreciate your book, and careful steps being available to women like myself. Thank you for your time in writing and providing it."

Contents are superb

"Just a quick hello and a very big thank you from a grateful Therapist in England. Your parcel arrived safely and the contents are superb. I hope this proves to be the start of a long and fruitful union between us. Once again my sincere thanks. Kindest regards"

Colin Tindall, Physchosexual Therapist
Relate Lincolnshire
Lincolnshire, England

Overcame within 20 days

"I would like to express my gratitude to you and to all the specialist that have produced these kits. Thanks a lot - my life has changed dramatically! And I feel myself much more better than i was before! Thanks a lot again! I managed to overcome it within 20 days. First, I passed a doctor's check and I joined to my husband. Thanks a lotttttttttttt!"

After many years of marriage, my husband and I are finally having intercourse

"I am thrilled to say that thanks to your book and kit, I have now overcome vaginismus! After many years of marriage, my husband and I are finally having intercourse. The tips and support provided in this book, opened up many locked away emotions, isolation, fears, doubts and secrets. I just assumed that I had some sort of serious issue with sex, that nobody else could possibly have experienced. I kept just hoping that one day the problem would disappear, but days turned into years, and the problem was never resolved. I was able to release so many emotions and doubts just knowing that other people actually had the same secret struggle. This book was a complete gift emotionally, and the trainers were a physical gift. The combination resulted in success for my husband and I. Thank you so very much!"

You are my miracle

"Me and my husband want to thank Mark and Lisa Carter for this great book and all the others on this site. You have done a great job by proving a solution to Vaginismus. I don't have words to express my joy. Every women who has this problem would understand the amount of mental tension one gets. I am an overcomer and am very proud of myself. It has been a long journey for me. I have been trying to have intercourse for 5-1/2 years but no success. I never experienced pain but had fear in my mind. My first experience with the gynecologist was horrible. I changed my gynecologist and she also couldn't explain me the problem that I had. I was literally falling apart and prayed for a miracle everyday. My husband is very understanding and loving. He has a lot of patience. We saw your site one day but couldn't decide what to do. Finally, we ordered the whole Vaginismus kit this May. I followed every step carefully and with a positive attitude and finally yesterday I did it. I am so grateful to you, please keep helping women like me. You are my miracle. Thank you so much."

To say the kit was effective would be an understatement!

"I don't even know how to thank you for helping me overcome one of the biggest obstacles in my life! Before I purchased your kit, I was convinced I would never be able to experience sex. Only a little more than a month after receiving your product, I was on my way to a normal sexually active life! To say the kit was effective would be an understatement! THANKS AGAIN!"

Thank you! I can now have the family I always wanted!

"I just wanted to say that I bought the vaginismus kit (dilators and books) recently and I am very happy. After over 20 years of being unable to have intercourse, I had sex for the first time in my life! It was a miracle! I have been in a relationship for over 7 months now. The books really helped to understand my problem and, once I understood it, I overcame it practically overnight! I read the book and decided that I had had enough of my problem. The next day, I inserted the dilator number 1, next day dilator 2 and then I went for full sex with a man! It was wonderful. Thank you! I can now have the family I always wanted!"

Help for secondary vaginismus

"I found your books (the book and work book) really good for always taking into account that things might have been different for those of us with secondary vaginismus. Having secondary vaginismus, my biggest question was "why"? If I'd been able to have sex in the past, with my husband and previously numerous other partners, even one night stands (laying to rest the idea that you have to have a "trusting" relationship to be able to relax and have pain-free sex), why were my husband and I now unable to have sex? Although the journalling aspects of the early steps in the workbook helped, I'm not sure I truly understood "why" until we successfully had sex again after going through your program, when I was able to step back from it all. - I think for me it was just a cycle of getting complacent in our sexual relationship (it becoming a chore, you're used to each other and its not that mad rush to rip each others clothes off!!), not enough foreplay and not being aroused enough, it being uncomfortable to begin with, me tensing up, then it hurting. Then next time, my body expected it to hurt, tensed up, and the whole cycle continued. Ignoring the problem and hoping it would go away didn't work, it just made it worse and made us both feel terrible."

Illustrations and suggestions are very helpful

"I checked out the website but did not purchase the books until months later. I wish I had done it sooner. The book and accompanying journal are very useful … the illustrations and suggestions are very helpful and it is so nice to read something that affirms how we feel as vaginismus sufferers … For me personally, the affirmations … and the suggestions on how to use the dilators more effectively were particularly useful as were the questions in the journal. My therapist … noted the usefulness of the book and the benefits to be had from using the affirmations and will be recommending the kit to other vaginismus sufferers."

You empower women like me in a gentle, non-threatening way

"I searched the web, books, and doctors for a couple of years searching for a solution to this problem. All I read was that you needed to find some dilators and practice inserting them. Of course, no one explained where to find them or how to do this. The package I received from you put all the pieces together. Looking back, I also think it was necessary to show in detail how to do this … I referred to it in my mind when I would get nervous about inserting the dilators.

I also really love the tone of your written materials. I feel like you empower women like me in a gentle, non-threatening way. Finally, someone who didn't respond to my problem with a huge question mark on their foreheads. Trust me, you are the only ones.

… I think your program is wonderful and have passed your web site on to my doctor, at her request, so she can help her other patients with this problem. It's ironic, but I have given her the instructions on how to treat this problem based exclusively on your materials. Thanks again…"

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

"My GP was actually really sensitive, a gentle woman. The best thing she said was not to try to have sex through the pain, to stop having sex altogether until I had resolved the vaginismus. This really took the pressure off as I was able to tell my husband this (although it was of course hard for him). … So it was off to the internet I went … came to your website and bought the kit. This step was a huge relief and empowering, I remember feeling that it was fantastic to be actually doing something towards changing our situation. I'm going to write a letter to all my caregivers telling them about my "recovery", and about your kit. … You can feel very proud that you have put together a product which has helped so many women. It can be a lonely road to recovery, but your product and forum made us realise we weren't alone, and that this too would pass. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. … P.S. Feel free to use any of my words in your promotional material."

Your kit is amazing

"I think your kit is amazing. When we were virtually unable to have sex after my daughter's birth, I spoke to my midwife, went to 2 ob/gyns and to lots of appointments with my GP. I had scans and examinations, and all they could come up with was a diagnosis of possible "deep tissue bruising" from the birth - explained to me as similar to a shoulder injury the ob had experienced skiing! He said the pain could take up to 2 years to go away. They also mentioned the possibility of dyspareunia or vaginismus, but weren't able to give any kind of definitive diagnosis or treatment program. I just thought this was ludicrous."

Awesome book

"I've already watched the DVD and started to read the book. It is awesome and I like the idea that everything is discussed in great detail for me to understand why things are happening the way it does! Already, just by reading the book, I'm starting to feel like a new person ... I just wanted to thank you"

Wonderful things

"Hi! I'm a physical therapist treating pelvic pain, including vaginismus, and have heard wonderful things about you from other therapists in the same field. Is it possible for you to mail me some pamphlets or brochures for patient use … I must refer patients to purchase their own treating equipment (such as dilators, workbooks, etc.). I am also especially curious if you have information regarding vaginismus occurring after chemotherapy … Thank you"

Darla Cathcart, PT
Shreveport, LA

Congratulations on a great product

"I am a medical doctor turned counsellor interested in women's health issues in fertility and sexuality. I saw this book Completely Overcome Vaginismus with a client and found it to be really excellent and validated information. The illustrations and contents are simple and yet comprehensive. I can vouch for the fact I have learned more about Vaginismus through this book than even in my undergraduate medical training a decade ago. I appreciated the references and bibliography listed too. As a counsellor I like the way you have integrated the emotional aspects of sexuality and sexuality problems seamlessly into a self healing and self help approach to treating Vaginismus. I dare say I hope I can be a more sensitive counsellor to my clients presenting with sexuality concerns.

Is there a way I can utilize this book/illustrations for educational purposes only and not for commercial profit. I would definitely cite the source and give due credit to the authors. Can you kindly advise?

Please accept my congratulations on a great product and also the courage to speak about women's sexual concerns in a way that honors what it is be a woman."

Sadhana, MD

Helpful for clients

"I am a PT working in an acute care women's hospital and out PT clinic … seeing women with pelvic floor pain concerns … the books [are] helpful for my clients; it will be great to have the whole set … the web site is great for individuals to go to. Thanks for the service you are doing for women."

Wendy Baltzer Fox, PT, GCS
Office of Women's Surgery
Providence, RI

I’m really impressed with your books

"Thank you very much Lisa. The package arrived safely. I'm really impressed with your books - you've done a great job! I can think of so many of our patients who would benefit from reading them. I was recommended to your website through the International Organization of Physical Therapists in Women's Health. I am a Physiotherapist in Ottawa, Ontario who runs a clinic specializing in pelvic pain, seeing large numbers of women suffering from dyspareunia and vaginismus. A colleague has recommended your book as a resource for positions for intercourse following treatment, Thank you"

Caroline Allen, PT
Pelvic Support Physiotherapy
Nepean, ON, Canada

Your books: They are the best we have ever seen!!

"We are sexual therapists, authors and speakers and have been in practice treating vaginismus for almost 30 years … We are very pleased to find you and your work. It is excellent. … I have also recommended your web site … I am finally responding to your books: They are the best we have ever seen!! We will use them for our clients from now on. The content, set-up of the content, thoroughness of descriptions and diagrams make it so easy to follow. Everyone should know about your books … we will definitely have them on our book table at our seminars."

Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner
Internationally recognized sexual therapists, educators and authors
passionatecommitment.com
Pasadena, CA

A thorough educational program

"Completely Overcome Vaginismus is a great self help option for women who are ready to take control over their vaginal penetration problem. Lisa and Mark (Carter) designed a thorough educational program firmly based on current research knowledge and written with the sensitivity of a couple who know the fears and hopes that come with working to find solutions."

Elke Reissing, Ph.D., C.Psych.
Human Sexuality Laboratory, University of Ottawa

I would recommend the kit to anyone

"I was involved as a psychotherapist with a client who had suffered with vaginismus for 5 years since her marriage. The kit was excellent. She followed the exercises including writing in the journal and now describes herself as an 'overcomer'. Unfortunately, she did much of this without the support of her partner as the marriage was failing. However, she did have her first penetrative sexual experience with him after using the kit. I am not trained as a sex therapist specifically, and the (developing) country I was working in did not have any sex therapists that I could refer her to (or any therapists for that matter - that was why I was there). The kit allowed me to help this young woman in ways that working just therapeutically would not have done. She was so relieved to find out that her vaginismus a) had a name and b) was a common condition that could be fairly easily overcome … I am now back in U.K. and would recommend the kit to anyone with the same condition. Keep up the good work."

Barbara Smith, MA, Psychotherapist
(UKCP registered)

We were unable to consummate our marriage

"I cannot begin to describe the change in our life after i came across this website. my husband and i are both indians and were both virgins when we got married. We were unable to consummate our marriage, my husband developed a form of erectile dysfunction due to this. Our problems culminated almost in us divorcing. We finally rallied together and that is when i came across this website. I immediately ordered the dilator set and started working with it. We have been married for 3-1/2 years and seeing a sex therapist for 1-1/2 years during that time.

I am ecstatic to say that within 2 weeks of purchasing the dilator set, recently we were able to have intercourse. nothing else helped us as much as this website has. Not even the therapist.

Just reading the feedback from all the others and realising that we weren't the only ones suffering made a tremendous change. So if I can convey the same message to yet another person stumbling upon this website, I would be really happy. It is never too late to work on our problems and take control of it. The tools that this website offers make it all the more easy to do so."

Problem solved in 15 days

"I'm a forty-year-old woman who hasn't been able to have intercourse for many years. One day I found your site, I bought your vaginismus kit and in 15 days my huge problem was solved. Thank you!"

I showed your product to my physician

"I showed your product to my physician. He loved it, and he has photocopied your brochure and is going to recommend it to other patients. … Thanx a lot"

My husband and I experienced undiagnosed primary vaginismus for 3 years

"My husband and I experienced undiagnosed primary vaginismus for 3 years, and finally had the joy (after purchasing your kit and completing the workbooks and therapy) of consumating our marriage on our anniversary! In our bliss, we didn't even think about contraceptives, and conceived on our 6th time together! We are so joyful to be carrying a baby girl who is due in just 4 weeks, and even more blessed to have run into other couples who are/were in our same situation with whom we have shared your website.

We are really nervous about delivering this baby … there are obvious risks involved with a c-section as it is a major surgery. However, I am equally nervous about delivering vaginally and experiencing secondary vaginismus and having to go through it all over again. Now that we could immediately diagnose it, I feel a bit more comfortable with it, but yet I also feel like it might be more difficult to overcome since there really would be a reason for the clamping down of my pc muscles (i.e. a wound or tearing that took place there), whereas before, I could just tell myself "it's all in your head… there's no reason to fear pain."

Do you have any recommendations for couples in our situation? We want to have several children, but I just feel like our sex life wasn't able to be established well before we got pregnant, and I am terrified of losing it again! We would appreciate any insight you have on this… Thank you so much."

I am a single woman who has suffered from vaginismus for over 18 years

"THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
I am a single woman who has suffered from vaginismus for over 18 years. I spent years dating and attempting to lose my virginity to no avail. Each experience was more emotionally painful than the next as each of these men couldn't understand what the problem was. My therapist was an enormous help in diagnosing my problem and a search of the internet lead me to you. I ordered the kit and my therapist and I worked together through the workbook. As a single woman I had to approach this a little differently, but I really felt that if I could gain the confidence to use the dilator set by myself, I would be better prepared for that first encounter with the mystery man who would help me "do the deed"

Something very interesting and powerful happened. Each increase in dilator size was a huge victory that was actually celebrated with my friends. They cheered me along! (from afar, of course!) I began to feel more confident, more womanly, and yes, more sexy. And apparently I somehow exuded that. I met, by complete chance, this very cool man. He and I dated for a little while and then the time came for us to expand this relationship. I told him everything...I was a 36 year old virgin, I had vaginismus, I was being treated, and I was ready if he was. Not only was he patient and kind, but very honored that I had chosen him to begin this next phase in my life.

It was frightening and awkward, but ultimately it was...FAN...TASTIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I only have one regret...I didn't find you all sooner. But I also believe wholeheartly that I found you when I was ready to begin healing.

And the best part? (well, the best part was the sex, don't get me wrong) Turns out that he isn't the guy for me; we broke up, but it wasn't because I couldn't have sex, it was because of the real emotional stuff. I could finally get to the heart of a relationship, instead of focusing on what I always considered "my failure". I will always be grateful that I found a man who was wonderful at being "my first", but now I am ready to meet the man who will be "my all".

I want to let single women know that they can help themselves. I am living proof. And I am going to be perfectly candid (I guess, I have already, so why stop now...) You can quote this entire email if it will someone else. Thank you from the bottom of my heart"

The kit is working so well for me

"The kit is working so well for me -- I am so grateful that I found your website! … Your site is really so helpful…it's such a relief to know that there are lots of other women going through something similar! Thanks again"

I’m a new woman!

"Dear Lisa, I just posted on the secondary chat site [in the private vaginismus forum]. I achieved success last week … For both of us it was just wonderful! He is the most amazing man I have ever met! Thank you so much for your support. … Thanks again for changing my life! ........... I'm a new woman!"

Thanks for being there

"Thank you so much Lisa. I can't wait to get started on this program and you and your group mean so much to me. I'm actually giving my month notice today and leaving my job so that I can focus on getting better as I'm now 34! Thanks for being there."

This is just awesome

"I would like to give a comment on your complete set of Vaginismus Kit. To make a long story short, I'm a 27 yr old woman never had sexual intercourse in my life. Even pap smear is painful every year. I have dated some guys but it was never sex involved. I was worried and unhappy for a long time thinking I will never insert anything in me nor enjoy sex like everybody else. I was surfing the net looking for the solutions a few weeks ago, and I saw the self treating vaginismus kit. I didn't think twice when I ordered them. I ordered the full package and I started to read the book and watch the DVD. I finally figured what my problem is, how to solve them… the book, the DVD and the dilators are extremely helpful. I'm seeing outstanding progress so far. I went all the way to the 3rd dilator in a very short time and I had my first intercourse with my boyfriend yesterday. I was crying, not because I was hurting but because I couldn't believe I was able to perform sexual intercourse. I just want to say thank you, it did change my life. I will not stop practicing till I become fully comfortable. I was planning to go to the Women's Clinic in NY at the end of this year, but I don't think I need to anymore. This is just awesome!!!!! Thank you guys for making life easy and pleasant for women like us. God Bless all"

A huge blessing

"This whole program has been a huge blessing in our lives. We ordered the kit in March, and I didn't join the forum until last month. I couldn't believe I waited so long because the forum was a huge support to me. I had no idea that vaginismus was a part of so many people's lives. Even the counselor that diagnosed me with vaginismus said he thought it was very rare. I wonder if it is more common than we think, but people just keep it a secret. You and Mark have done so much to help women who live in silence and fear. I only wish I had found your website sooner. I just wanted to tell you that the first time we found the website, and read some of the testimonials, I just started to cry because I couldn't believe other people had vaginismus. What a wonderful service you are doing for people! I really can't thank you enough for the wonderful gift of freedom you have given me. Thanks again for everything!"

Impressed with the book

"I am a psychosexual therapist working for myself and for the NHS, in England. One of my clients has just shown me your book. I am interested in using it here. I would like to buy a set, but wonder, do you have any therapist packs that I could buy. I am very impressed with the book that she has shown me and am surprised that I have never heard of it before. I look forward to hearing from you."

Pat Clark, BASRT & UKCP accredited
Psychosexual Therapist/RGN
UK

A great help

"Thanks so much Lisa. You've been such a great help. Just signed up and posted. I LOVE your program!"

Beneficial for patients

"I am a physical therapist that treats women with pelvic pain. I am interested in your dilator set. ... I have your books and find the information in them beneficial for my patients. Thank you in advance for your assistance."

Giselle Roedel, DPT
Salem, OR

I did not think sex was possible

"We don't know how to thank you. I did not think sex was possible. Everytime we tried having sex we were unsuccessful. After 4 years of dating and then getting married. Sex was not a part of our lives which left me feeling frustrated . Even the OBGYN said there was nothing wrong and all I need is time. Time- how much time was the question. That's when we came accross this web site and I was willing to give it a try. I think getting the complete kit was the best thing I ever did. After going through the program I was finally able to have my husband inside me. I can't tell you how grateful I am to this website. Thank you..Thank you..Thank you"

Most helpful!

"I am a counsellor who works in Australia, I was interested (as are some of my clients) in purchasing the vaginismus kit ... Thank you for getting back to me so promptly - most helpful! … Thanx again."

Sarah Martin, B.Psych, B.SW, Social Worker
Central Northern Adelaide Health Service
South Australia

I am excited to be able to give this some coverage

"Thank you so much … I am excited to be able to give this some coverage - I know so many women who have suffered from it, and even more women who don't know there is a name - or a solution - to the problem."

Kate Rae
Senior Features Editor
Glow Magazine

Products are great

"I think your products are great. I recommend them to many of my patients."

Roger Ferland, MD
Providence, RI

My husband and I couldn’t be happier!

"Thanks for getting back to me so quickly ... I also wanted to thank you for your wonderful program. It took me awhile, but I overcame in January. I'm pregnant and due in April. My husband and I couldn't be happier! Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for helping us get through such a difficult condition. After many years, I'm finally free of vaginismus!"

Incredibly appreciative

"I just received a full kit from Vaginismus.com to replace the damaged dilator set that had arrived in a crushed and half-opened package. This one was in perfect shape and the contents are terrific. I am incredibly appreciative of your very generous resolution to the issue of receiving damaged merchandise even though the fault was not yours. I have attached a few photos of the previous package in case they are helpful as evidence when you approach UPS with this concern ... Thank you very much - I'm grateful that your company exists to help women with an awfully difficult health problem. I also wish to personally thank the gentleman I spoke to on the phone last week whose kindness and concern were wonderfully helpful and trust-inspiring."

It is definitely helping me and my partner.

"Just letting you know that I have received the [kit] that I ordered from you and have tried it out. I like it very much and it is definitely helping me and my partner."

Tone of your book is brilliant

"Hi, I bought one of your treatment packs and I'm really pleased with the results so far, so thank you very much! I think the tone of your book is brilliant and it is a great help knowing there are people who understand what I'm going through … Thank you again"

I’m not a virgin anymore!!!!!!!

"I ordered the dilator set because I had been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we had not yet had intercourse. I wanted to give myself to him so badly, yet everytime we tried it felt like I was just... stuck closed. I could get tampons in, but only with a lot of effort after calming myself down. I was so scared of pain that I clamped up.

I received my dilator set in mid October. I've been using them progressively. It didn't take me very long to get to the fourth and I have now been able to have sex with my boyfriend.

I was so happy. The happiest I have been in a long time. I felt like so much stress was lifted off of my shoulders. I feel proud that I overcame my fears and I'm so thankful that this site exists. I was able to order the dilators confidentially and the delivery was quick and speedy.

I really am so happy. I can't even believe how quickly I got through the 4 dilators. I was so scared it would take me long. But it took me less that a month. Thank you so much! Without this site I would have stayed stressed and sad all the time. I felt so ashamed and terrible about it. I wanted to please my boyfriend and show my love for him.

And now I can.
It was worth it. It really was.
I'm proud of myself for taking the initiative.
I'm not a virgin anymore!!!!!!!"

Nothing but wonderful things to say

"My youngest sister got your vaginismus kit and has nothing but wonderful things to say about it. My other sister was just diagnosed with vaginismus today. My mom and I have been to this site to get as much information for her as possible ... I've had painful sex since my honeymoon night..."

I can’t describe how much this has helped me mentally

"I would just like to say that this web site is fantastic. I am now 25 but when I was 18 with my first sexual partner I suffered terribly. I felt as though someone was putting a knife inside me and would cry every time we tried. I couldn't tell any of my friends cause it was so weird. My mother and partner at the time were fantastic. I visited many docters and had many tests which were horrible experiences for a 18 year old. I was also told things like don't use condoms which terrified me, and try different positions which was extremely embarrasing.

In 2 years I had 3 speres, many internal investigations, a urine test and scan cause they thought my bladder wasnt emtying and many more. At the end of the 2 years I had key hole sergery so they could see if there was any physical problems. They put a camera in my tummy button and a probe in the cut on my pubic hair line. They couldn't find anything wrong and it was very painful. The last thing I was told was I probably was a psychological problem but I was given no help and no support. I was now 20 and had broken up with my first love after 2 years of being prodded and poked with no result…

My friend saw the interview on this morning and said to look at the web site. I can't describe enough how much this has helped me mentally. I didnt know anyone else had suffered and had kept in hidden for so many years like I was a freak or something. Thank you so much..."

The interview was on an english tv morning programme. It's called 'This Morning'. The interview was about a girl who had gone through all the symptoms and after 3 years was finally diagnosed. I got your web address through a link on thiers which is www.itv-thismorning.co.uk Thanks once again and thanks for your fast reply."

Prompt follow up

"Thanks for your quick response! Just wanted to let you know I received the books on Monday, Jan 15th. Thank you so much for your prompt follow up and excellent customer service! I have already recommended the books to a friend."

Helping patients

"Thank you very much for sending me your kit .... I'd like to start my clinic having at least 10 kits on hand .. to help my patients... Thank you"

Mary Kendell, MS WHCNP
Adjunct Assistant Professor, Dept. OBGYN
The Medical Faculty Associates of George Washington University
Washington, DC

Useful products

"I have received your products today. They seem very useful and I am very grateful and appreciative"

Barbara Green, MBACP, GHR
Chesterfield Relate Psychosexual Therapist
Sheffield, UK

Pleased that such materials exist

"I am a sex therapist with a multidisciplinary group of MDs and clinicians. One of my patients with dyspareunia came in with your kit last week and I was embarrassed not to have heard of it but pleased that such materials exist. Could you send us a sample kit or brochures? From what I've seen it appears that it would be an excellent adjunct to treatment for many of our patients, and I would love to know more about it. Thanks so much"

Elizabeth Norman, M.Ed. LMFT LPC
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (Diplomate)
Center for Sexual Health (centerforsexualhealth.com)
Durham, NC

Thank you so much

"I am a Clinical Psychologist working with women with Vaginismus here in Sydney, Australia. I was impressed with the presentation of all your products - they all look good and the books and web site are informative and both easy to read, and understand. The patients I see who have received your products have been helped immensely by the prompt service; the web site; the follow up service and now the Private Forum. This package has helped them to learn and understand about Vaginismus and feel supported in their quest for overcoming this difficult and often misunderstood problem."

Jessica Medd, Clinical Psychologist,
Dept of Urology, Concord Hospital
Concord, N Australia.

It is wonderful.

"I wanted to let you know that I have indeed been on the forums already exchanging stories and information with the other women. I truly appreciate having this avenue to talk with other people who have the problem. It is wonderful."

I know you will help so many marriages

"I just stumbled onto your site after hearing the term "vaginismus" for the first time in the book "A Celebration of Sex". Finally, a name for what I've experienced. I've been married for 9 years, and have actually overcome most of my sexual "problems" after the birth of my children just in the past 2 years. I wish I had this resource 9 years ago, what a difference it would have made in our marriage. Like most stories, we waited until our wedding night, to be shocked and horrified that sex HURT. And it didn't stop hurting. I went to OB/GYN's to be told that everything physically was fine with me, and that I needed to relax. Nobody ever mentioned anything like this condition to me. They made me feel crazy, and like they really didn't care about my very REAL problem. Even my christian counselor's only advice was to create a relaxing mood - candles, music, etc, and to spend a lot of time on foreplay and lube up really well. Nobody seemed to understand what I was saying - I couldn't MAKE my body not hurt, no matter what I did. My poor husband, trying to be patient but extremely FRUSTRATED.

My point in writing this is just to say THANK YOU for being out there for people like me. I know you will help so many marriages. I only wish I could get the years back where sex was something I HAD to do, and undo the damage it created in our marriage. We are now experiencing a fairly fulfilling sexlife, but I think the years of enduring painful sex is still affecting us. I enjoy it when we are actually doing it, but it's still hard for me to get in the mood. Anyhow…enough about me…just thank you for helping all of us out there with this condition."

My husband and I have been able to have sexual intercourse!

"I have moved through all 10 steps now and my husband and I have been able to have sexual intercourse! It is very exciting to overcome a problem that had consumed my life in the past. Thanks again for a very successful and encouraging program!!"

Happy news

"I just wanted to share with you the happy news that after three weeks of using my dilators I have now been able to have full sexual intercourse with my partner. I can't thank you enough for your support and openness during this difficult process. Thank goodness I found you through Google - I might still be struggling miserably and feeling like a complete and utter failure. Thank you so very much."

Thank you very much for your kindness

"Thank you very much for your kindness to help me with your amazing treatment kit. I have written a story about me, hoping it can become one of your customer testimonials. Thank you very much for your kindness"

8 days needed to resolve my 8 year problem

"Dear Lisa, I wish you and your company all the best things to happen in this New Year. I got your vaginismus kit a month ago. Only 8 days I needed to resolve my 8-year-problem. I could not believe it. Therefore, I waited and I even repeated some steps to be sure that I was cured. It was so easy to have intercourse. Still I was skeptic, and I thought that maybe we are not doing it right. It was so hard to deal with the success. Thanks to your advice I knew that it was to be expected. I cannot find the words to thank you for your books, for your customer service and every advice you gave me. My life has a new beginning. We are planning our own family and our marriage has improved dramatically. Thank you!"

High recommendations

"Hi, I just ordered the set of books. Looking forward to reading them, you came with high recommendations. I am on a personal quest. I have dealt with vaginismus for 17 years, and just this last summer diagnosed myself on accident. I've seen about 10 different gynecologists, and had about 27 exams in the last 17 years, and not one told me I had vag. I now tell them. My quest is to make Vaginismus more known. Not just to gyn's but to women who don't know they have it. I'm on the Yahoo vag support groups and have mentioned to the ladies that I'm ready to do whatever it takes to bring more attention to this problem. I'm angered by hearing about all the women (like me) who are told by gyn's that they just need to relax, or it's all in their heads and so on. A lot of women agree that it needs to be made more known, but no one knows where to start. Someone mentioned your site and that you have suggested taking a copy of the def. of vag into gyn's at appt. time. I think it's a great idea, but I'm ready willing and able to do a lot more!!! I suggested an info sheet, like a poster, for gyn office waiting rooms. Something that displays a message to women who suffer from pain with sex and exams and don't know why, that they're not alone, that it could be vag or something similar, and maybe suggesting them to a website or 800 number. If women don't hear about it personally, gynecologists NEED to at least know! Do you deal with any of this? Do you deal with women who get all worked up and want to do something about it like me right now? : ) Sorry, I am really into doing something!!! I'm serious about this, so I'm hoping you can give me your direction or even an opinion. I would value anything you could tell me! Thanks for having such an informative site, it really was key to my diagnoses and now treatment of vag. I hope you can tell me something that will help me in my efforts, I'm going to do something, just don't know what yet."

A great help

"I want to know how much of a great help it has been to me to use the book and the kit."

The only comprehensive source of information I’ve ever come across

"By way of feedback I can only heap praise on the content … It remains the only comprehensive source of information I've ever come across … was invaluable as the first step in addressing a problem precipitated by trauma some twenty years ago … understanding the condition has been nine tenths of resolving it and, armed with knowledge provided … we have been able to move forward after years of stalemate … My doctors now have your site bookmarked and will recommend it to other patients."

Resolved our 4-year-old issue in one week

"First thing first! I must thank you for this wonderful treatment information and resources. We were able to resolve our 4-year-old issue in one week. We had visited several doctors before this, but not a single person suggested anything close to what your book and video suggested … thanks again for providing the wonderful information."

I finally realized that I was not alone

"I am extremely grateful … when I received the books and read about vaginismus I finally realized that I was not alone. Like many, many women, I had been to my gynecologist several times and she said that there was nothing wrong with me. She could not offer me explanation as to why any attempt at intercourse was so very painful … after about one and a half months … I was able to have intercourse."

Valuable books

"My wife and I found your book would be valuable to many people who suffer from vaginismus."

Written in a very clear & concise manner

"I thought I would write to you and say that your book and the dilators were very helpful indeed. It took me about 3 months to go through all the 10 steps thoroughly and at the end of it, I was able to have sex for the first time! It was a very emotional experience for me, and somewhat overwhelming. I thought the book was written in a very clear and concise manner. I was able to follow each step appropriately, and with sheer determination and an understanding partner, I was able to achieve Step 10. I really don't think there were any areas you could have improved on … It answered all the questions/doubts that I had. So, thanks once again … your help is much appreciated."

Recommend it to anyone

"Thank you so much for all the information in your book. I recommend it to anyone who has the same problem I had. It takes time and patience, but sooner or later it will happen. Good luck to all your other clients."

More doctors and physical therapists need to know about you

"… very helpful. I wish that more women knew about this and could be informed. More doctors and physical therapists need to know about you. Thank you."

We are able to have sex again

"Thank you … it really is appreciated. I actually purchased the book and journal along with the dilators … we are able to have sex again … and my husband is perfectly happy with that!!! =) … It gave me the answers that I was looking for, that my doctor couldn't give me! … It made me feel like I wasn't the only one with this problem, and that there was a way to fix it. It gave me hope, which is what I needed desperately! I was close to giving up, which wasn't fair to myself nor to my husband. Thank you again!"

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

"Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! … I ordered your complete kit of products and although the first couple tries with the trainers were quite painful, within three weeks I was on my way to a successful sex life!"

Thanks to you my life has changed dramatically

"… I've been wanting to write to you for quite a while, but haven't had the time. Thanks to you my life has changed dramatically. In fact I'm pregnant. I had gone to several doctors in the past, but none of them were able to help me. Your little booklet helped more then I could ever imagined. Thank you. My case of vaginismus wasn't very severe, but bad enough that my husband couldn't penetrate me. Thanks to your techniques it all worked out well, and we're on our way to having a family."

I overcame

"Thank you so much for your products and encouraging literature that helped me become educated about vaginismus. I overcame it and I know that many other women can too! I hope that more women will learn about vaginismus so that they do not have to suffer alone."

Today I enjoy sex with my husband

"I am very thankful … I had been married for the last four years but was not able to have intercourse … sex was a nightmare for me as whenever he tried to insert in me I cried out of pain. There was lot of pressure on us to have children but how could we? … I came across this site and read about this product. I read the feedback of people posted on the site and decided to give a try to this also. Earlier, I had consulted a lot of doctors but no use. But this time when I used this vaginismus kit, this did wonder to me. I gradually came out of my problem and today I enjoy sex with my husband, which was a dream five months ago. Thanks to you."

I now have hopes of becoming pregnant

"Just wanted to let you know that your product was a great help to my husband and me. We had not been able to achieve penetration for almost 5 1/2 years of marriage, even after a surgery I had to correct the problem. I had been seeing a physical therapist who wanted me to start renting a machine to help with our problem. Insurance would not cover this … I didn't even know I had something called vaginismus until almost 2 years after my surgery … Using the instruction books and taking time every night for just a couple months, we achieved penetration on our own about 3 months after we started … I now have hopes of becoming pregnant sometime this next year and starting our family. Thank you!"

Amazed at just how quickly things are improving

"I have found the treatment successful. I went undiagnosed for years and as soon as I found out what it was I researched it on the Internet. Yours was the only detailed website and I found it so helpful I ordered the kit. Although in the middle of treatment I have been amazed at just how quickly things are improving. Thank you very much for helping me move on from what has been a really worrying time for me."

I am now cured of this long occurring problem

"Your products were extremely helpful. I am now cured of this long occurring problem. Thank you!"

Nobody understood my issue like you do

"The book is great and I love the journal. The best part is the "leading" questions. Sometimes it is hard to think why you have this problem. The questions make you think of all angles … it is the best program … nobody understood my issue like you do."

The most comprehensive and helpful information

"I purchased your 10-steps book and have been going through all the steps. It is the most comprehensive and helpful information I have found about vaginismus and overcoming it."

Your book gave me the clues

"I had been using vaginal dilators for 5 months … I tried several times to have i/c with my husband, but never could. Your book gave me the clues to attempt i/c without problems … I have strongly recommended your book in some support groups because I think it can help many women like me. Pls keep on helping women and thank you very much."

Physical treatment section [of the book] was excellent

"I love the positive tone of the book. Though shame and fear are thoroughly covered, you don't stay there … physical treatment section was excellent. I know this is your area of expertise and it really showed."

Your group is really much more specialized

"I … wanted to say thanks so much for creating these books. I have been having a difficult time getting through the chapters because of my abuse history, but I know that in time it will help me to heal, and I am so grateful these tools and website exist. I currently am a part of the yahoo primary vaginismus group but would like to join the vaginismus.com forum as well. I find the more support the better, especially when I am feeling discouraged. I shared the books with my therapist (who is a man) and he said he was sharing them with other clients as well! Thank you again for all of your help … The yahoo group is not moderated, so your group is really much more specialized, and I believe will be greatly helpful to me as I work through the program. By the way, I originally heard about your program from the women on the yahoo site -- you are pretty popular! I feel so lucky that your site, product, and group exists. It gives me great hope, when for so many years I had nowhere to turn. Thanks again"

I cannot praise your book highly enough

"I cannot praise your book highly enough. You answered my questions thoroughly and where there was a dark mystery, bought understanding and clarity. Within 2 weeks I went from the sick terror of struggling with Dilator 1 up to confidence [with] number 3. I would particularly like to mention the following [from the books], which I found so important: 1) The examination of happenings in one's past and then, the letting go of them and moving on. 2) The clarity of what kind of pain is normal in 1st intercourse and what is not. It is because of this confusion that I am a virgin at 38. Had I been more informed I would have realised that the pain I felt was not my hymen. 3) The link between the mind and body. I felt that I was being kind to myself yet still purposeful and moving forward. The positive sentences I had to learn really helped. I feel different all together. Being able to tackle a problem, not merely wail about it! … Thank you again; I think I can safely say you have changed my life … Best Wishes"

I was very pleased to learn that I was not alone

"I was very pleased to learn that I was not alone. I felt as though there was something very abnormal about me, and reading your literature helped me realise that many women suffer from vaginismus. Thanks!"

My husband and I are now enjoying wonderful, pain-free sex!

"I'm happy to say that my husband and I are now enjoying wonderful, pain-free sex! I ordered the book set from www.vaginismus.com (I already had a dilator set). The book was easy to read and its exercises helped me understand my body as well as my mental attitude towards vaginismus. Within a couple of weeks I was through the first 6 steps or so, which gave both myself and my partner a sense of accomplishment. It took about 8 months for me to get all the way through the steps, which may sound like a long time, but to me it was a blink of an eye considering I've been seeking treatment for vaginismus for the last 13 years!"

We feel like newlyweds all over again

"We feel like newlyweds all over again … I must thank you for the way that the workbook was structured. After stumbling upon definitions of vaginismus, we thought for sure that therapy would be along the lines of "well, you should have experimented more before marriage … you got what you deserved." But just the opposite … you shared in a factual way … it really reinforced and paved the way for all of my misconceptions to be dissolved. The workbook was so non-judgemental … And it was so informative from a scientific perspective (and I was a biology major!) and I was so blown away by the information and the excellent way in which it was presented that I'm saving the book to one-day share with my own daughter when we JOYFULLY teach her about sex … Already, we have connected with another couple who has been struggling with this since they got married a year ago. (To think, one year ago, we would never had believed that anyone else would believe us if we told them our struggle … now, we find there are … couples who are or were in our shoes!) Like we did, they busied themselves and became over-productive workaholics. Now they are looking forward to weekly "study dates" with each other as they just ordered the kit from your site. Your goodness is far-reaching! Warm regards to you both …"

Absolute revelation

"Thank you … I am in my 40s and really wish that your book had been around 20 years ago … In my teens I was unable successfully to use tampons. I first tried to have sexual intercourse at age 20, but my boyfriend was unable to get his penis in. After that, though I had in my 20's several other relationships with men, I avoided having sexual intercourse and never married … I had one unsuccessful attempt to have a [pap] smear test … I did from time to time mention to several G.P.s (with embarrassment) that I had never been able to have sexual intercourse, but none of them appeared really interested in offering help … I went to see a specialist doctor about my thyroid gland … He referred me to an eminent gynaecologist, but I was too tense to let him examine me and he was not very sympathetic, saying that I was coming to see him 10 years too late. Three years or so later I was prevailed upon to see another gynaecologist who examined me under anaesthetic with a view to carrying out a hymenectomy … He also gave me a prescription for vaginal dilators … I did not find him interested in or sympathetic regarding vaginismus. He didn't ask me to make any follow up appointments to check on my use of the dilators … I did not make great headway with the dilators until, searching the internet I found your website and ordered your book, last year. I found the information that you provided about the pc muscles an absolute revelation and felt that the pc muscle exercises that you recommended were the key to getting somewhere."

Lots of good diagrams and clear explanations

"… the books are a WONDERFUL source of information for people who don't understand the condition, giving lots of good diagrams and clear explanations …"

Your book is awesome

"First of all, I am glad to say that my girlfriend and I are past vaginismus!!! She had a combination of Primary and secondary vaginismus. She had some surgeries in the vaginal area when a teenager, and then entered into an abusive relationship for over 20 years. She finally had the power to leave the man, then met me. The story is a long one, and I hope to some day tell it, but in short, it was our patience and closeness that helped us both work on the issue … Your book was the best that I have found … I own about 5 on the subject, and yours, hands down is it. I think people are looking for the step-by-step "procedure" if you want to call it that … In short, your book is awesome"

Thank you for your website

"… we have started practicing the real act. It has taken me a long time get started due to lack of time for practice, and my case wasn't that bad to begin with. The program has definitely helped a lot. I wouldn't know how else to deal with this. Thank you for all the efforts you have put in to this in order to cure it. I especially would like to thank you for your website. There are a lot of people out there, who don't know what this is called … Thanks again."

We enjoyed that long-waited wedding night

"My husband and I waited for each other for marriage, and ended up waiting a lot longer than we ever dreamed! Two years of marriage later, we still had been unable to consummate our marriage and enjoy that wedding night we'd looked forward to. On Christmas Eve of 2004, we stumbled upon an article in Today's Christian Woman that led us to www.vaginismus.com. We couldn't believe how closely the writer's experience paralleled ours! I had been to countless OBGYN's who told me everything was physically fine with me. Visits with a counselor simply added pressure on us to have a healthy sex life. We sobbed for nearly an hour with relief when we read some of the testimonies on your website. They were just like us: in love, longing for intimacy, and seemingly without hope.

Fortunately, after ordering the dilator kit and workbook, we became convinced for the first time that our wedding night could be a possibility. We took our time through the journal sections of the workbook, diving deeply into past misinformation. I was floored at the amount of information we learned about myself and my husband during this exercise. I recorded over 20 negative messages I'd been fed about sex and sexuality. My body was reacting to what I had heard, in spite of the fact that my mind knew differently.

My husband was so patient and tender and understanding through every chapter. I would HIGHLY recommend that couples do every single stage of the workbook and reading together. It knits you so much closer together, and sparks so many amazing conversations. It sets the stage for the amazing physical intimacy that is to come! Another thing that my husband did was give me little gifts along the way... every chapter I completed, he had me draw a paper from a jar. For one chapter, I got a pedicure, for another, I got a gift certificate to a teahouse. It was fun having something to look forward to, and an encouragement to keep going! (Can you tell how anxious he was?!) I would also recommend that couples take their time. Pressure works against relaxation, and it's so important to dive deep into the past so you can correct things. Finally, one of the best things we did was to get away. During the final chapter when you begin intercourse, we scheduled a short vacation to a luxury loft. I think that so much pain, devastation, and frustration was associated with our own bedroom at home from all of the times we spent trying. It was so nice to start a new chapter in a new place. I didn't feel the same old failure all around, and six months after starting our vaginismus books, we enjoyed that long-waited wedding night!

When we got back from our little getaway, the first thing we did was rearrange the furniture in our bedroom and make it feel like a brand new place to reflect the newness in our marriage.

God's desire IS for couples to experience pleasure through sex. He WILL accompany you, relaxing your heart, mind, and body. And as soon as we got to a point where we were willing and ready to share our story, we couldn't BELIEVE how many other couples out there are facing this! It sounds crazy to be married for years and have never had sex in our sexually aggressive society, but it happens. We couldn't be more grateful for the study books, and are so glad to share with those who have given up that there IS such hope!"

Many, many thanks to the purveyors of this Godsend treatment kit!

"I am so thankful for the information, materials, and other literature offered by this website! My husband and I, only recently married, had decided to wait until after our wedding to have sex. I had seen my gynecologist and had been told that I was perfectly healthy, so imagine our shock, confusion, and disappointment when we were unable to consummate our marriage.

I explained the situation to my doctor, who kept insisting that I just needed to relax and use more lubricant. Yet, with every failed attempt, relaxing became increasingly more difficult. My husband and I followed the advice and suggestions of my doctor, and even a sex therapist, but nothing worked. They kept telling me that this problem was probably just psychological, but I knew deep down that the answer wasn't that simple. It wasn't really an emotional issue causing painful intercourse; rather, it was the painful intercourse which was beginning to take a toll on me emotionally.

One evening, I decided to get on the Internet and take a shot at researching the causes of painful intercourse. Almost by accident (but maybe it was providence), I stumbled upon a link for this website. I practically cried with relief when I read the information and the testimonials; I felt certain that I had found my solution.

As soon as the vaginismus kit arrived, I worked diligently through the books and dilators. Before this experience, I would never have imagined that I'd be able to "retrain" my PC muscle group, or that I'd be able to insert the largest dilator, but it eventually happened. I found, though, that with a positive attitude, and the patience to accomplish each of the Steps, I was finally able to reach my goal. After only six weeks using the vaginismus kit, my husband and I were able to have normal, pain-free (and even quite pleasurable!) sex.

I know that my husband and I were really fortunate; unlike other vaginismus sufferers who dealt with this problem for years, we were able to find a solution just a few months after our wedding. I say this because it demonstrates the value of these products all the more. By finding help on this website, we were spared from YEARS of potential disappointment and misery.

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